Post # 1
Hey ladies! So I am getting married October 21 and need help deciding what should be on my to do list for this month.
I have already paid for my Venue and Dress.
I have started on a guest list and hunting down addresses.
My maid of Honor has picked out her dress, but the 2 other BM’s are undecided.
I have a huge folder on my computer full of inspiration photos for decorations 🙂
Other than that I have little else done 🙁
I am a budget bride my dad is giving me (1 k- 2k) My FI and I paid for my dress ($728) and venue ($425 , got to love out of season prices ! )
My aunt is a caterer and has promised to do my cake for only the cost of ingredients ( roughly $80 ). I also have a family friendDJ who is willing for $250.
I also already have a ton of tulling, lighting , and some vases.
So bee’s when my father hands me the money this month what should I be working on , and putting my money towards? I found a really cool website called Oriental traditions and it has very cute very pocket healthy prices and I am very tempted to buy a bunch of little things like the serving set, wine glasses, decorations, rose petals, etc.. but do not know if I should be working on other things.
So I guess I am asking what kind of budget/ priority sort of list do you ladies have and what were or are you doing 7 1/2 months before the big day? I am planning on DIY’ing all the decorations and food.
Post # 3
Does your venue provide food? Because if not that should be high on your list along with a photographer.
Photography can be VERY expensive if you want a good one.
After that I’d look into guest list finalization and Save the Date cards (if you need them).
Post # 4
I’d start thinking about flowers, decorations, and food. I’m doing the flowers myself and I ordered from bunchesdirect.com and fiftyflowers.com. I bought some practice flowers from safeway and Trader Joe’s to practice with and that was that.
Food was tough. Since we are doing a backyard wedding at his parent’s house, I wasn’t sure about hot food. We thought about an appetizer reception, and I had priced a few of those out (WOW catering is expensive), but decided to go with a make your own sandwich bar. It was much easier to deal with. We will have premium meats and cheeses, along with gourmet breads and other normal toppings. We also are getting lots of things from Costco, like salad, and munchies.
Decorations…I know you said you have some stuff, but try to think about a theme and then try to think of things that will go with that theme. Like we have a “country elegance” sort of theme (hence the mason jars), but with style (beautiful lighting and lots of colorful flowers). It’s the little stuff that will drive you nuts like “oh, I need ribbon to tie on my jars” or “crud, I need floral tape!” LOL. I would make a list of everything you will need to prepare – even the little stuff. Think about how you want your tables to look – place cards? table numbers? candles? feathers? petals?
Sorry for rambling. Hope I helped!
Post # 5
@Anniebo:Hey! For monthly “to dos”, I signed up with The Knot for my wedding and they had a really useful checklist tool that you can update with what you have done; and each month new tasks come up in the list… It’s really complete, and a real life saver because there’s so much to do and it helps to keep track. It’s all calculated based on your wedding date..
Post # 6
@KatNYC2011: I forgot to mention that my FI aunt is a photographer and she is considering it her wedding gift to us to do all the photography 🙂 All we have to pay for is the prints.
@BackyardLoveBird: Food is a toughy for me also! I know I will not be able to afford a good caterer, and IMO I would rather not use half my budget on an OK caterer . I love love love the Mason Jar look, a girl gave me the idea of lining my aisle in Mason jars with the 6$ bouquets you can buy at krogers. My “aisle” is a brick paved winding pathway leading to a gazebo.
I am having a classic autumn theme. Where I live this time of year is gorgeous, I am getting married outside in a park with an adorable gazebo as a backdrop.The reception will be at a really nice lodge adjacent to the wedding site. My wedding party will be dressed in red, and as decorations I am using lots of reds, oranges, browns, and maybe pops of yellow here and there.
So I am getting the consensus that I need to focus on food, flowers, and decorations.
Would you all say $400 dollars set back for food for 100 ppl, $200 for decorative flowers, and $400 for other decorations is doable??
I am figuring that I will be able to talk the pops into buying real flowers for the wedding party’s flowers and bouts as we approach that day.
Post # 7
@Anniebo: I’m not sure how you are going to do food for $4 per person. Are you going to do a pot luck? Or a have a restaurant/caterer just drop off chafing dishes/hot plates of food?
Post # 8
I think it would be better to set back like, $800 for food and $200 for flowers and not worry about extra decorations. It’s going to be tough to feed 100 people on $400 worth of food.
Post # 9
@ohheavenlyday: You guys are right, that is wishful thinking huh? Looks like I will be dipping into my savings account :/ I’ll set back $800 for food and pay for decorations out of my own pocket.
Food ideas for $8 pp anyone?
somebody told me that since I am having an evening wedding , I could wait to have my ceremony until like 7, and then just serve appetizers and desserts. I am tempted , but don’t know if I can get past the guilt of not feeding my guests a full meal! Anybody else doing this and how are you going about it?
Post # 10
If you start the ceremony at 7, most will have already eaten before hand. Then an appetizer or dessert buffet would be an absolutely perfect way to end the night!
Post # 11
@Anniebo: You might look into bbq for that many people for your price range. Pulled pork is awesome and is relatively inexpensive. Have you checked out dollar general for decorations, they actually have some great stuff in their wedding section and tons of stuff that can be used in different ways with some imagination.
I would also check vistaprints and sign up for the business emails, I got a ton of my paperproducts from the for just shipping.
I would sit down and make a definite list of what you want to buy so that you don’t buy things that you will not need. I made that mistake and have a whole box of stuff I bought that I will never use.
Post # 12
If you want to serve appetizers and desserts, it would be better to have the ceremony EARLIER actually, so guests would not expect a full meal. But with a ceremony at 7 pm, guests are going to be hungry afterward. I think you could definitely get a full catered BBQ meal for around $8 person. Do you have any BBQ places near you you could check out?
Post # 13
have you looked into officiants yet?
i have all my major stuff booked and from now until May/early June will be focusing on rings, invites and decor (centerpieces/linens etc).
Post # 14
Flowers and Photography seem to me where you should be spending some of your time right now. As others have stated Photography and Flowers are very pricy and need to be considered well in advance. Also you didn’t mention anything about the paper goods needed for your wedding! I would suggest looking into Save-the-Dates if you need them and Invitations. If you want/need to DIY your invitations you will want to start early. Even the print at home kind can be time consuming. Good Luck & Congrats.