(Closed) What should I do???

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

If he were to propose the first week of the new year, would you be upset? IMO, a few days difference wouldn’t mean a lot.

Although, also IMO, you guys already sound engaged if you’re putting down payments on wedding stuff together, just without a proposal/ring.

I would give him a bit of time, since it sounds like you’re both really busy and missing each other right now, and but I would say carve out some time to talk to him about it next week.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Give him time.. my sorority sister was in the same situation. We were all at a New Years party and as the ball dropped I could see the tears in her eyes because the year was over and he had not proposed.

The next morning they woke up and went on a walk in the quiet New Year’s morning while everyone was still asleep and he proposed. It was really sweet and exactly how he had planned it.

I know it sucks to wait, but don’t say anything until after New Year’s.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

To be honest, a week or two (or more…hahaa) before we got engaged I was a crazy psycho b$*ch and ruining it for my FI. I was a ball of stress, irritated, blah blah, and I know i made it so hard for my money because he had something really sweet planned all along, and I kept ruining it! I say wait it out and try to be patient as possible until after the New Year and then decide on a game plan. You do not want to inadvertently ruina nything!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I wouldn’t say anything. Maybe he’s giving it a few days because a surprise is important to him. If he thinks your expecting it or you say something than that might delay it more. There are still a few days left in the year. Who knows..maybe he’s planning on doing it on Friday? That would be a really romantic thing for him to do on the stroke of midnight 🙂

Don’t worry so much! Try to be patient (even though it’s hard!) and just remember that the two of you are already making plans for marriage well in advance. Isn’t it worth it to wait a little for an engagement if that means that it will be more special for you and your man? Everything will work out. Sit tight and wait it out.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

@mispriss1215: Well you never know- even if there is a wedding on New Years- he still could do it then. Honestly- just don’t say anything until after New Years- give him a day after the wedding just to be sure. And if he hasn’t done it by then, then approach him when you are most calm and tell him that you are disappointed that he didn’t keep his word and you need some space to figure out what you are going to do as this is a big deal.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Honestly- I wouldn’t even bring it up, even though I know you are itching to. This is the part where you trust him to keep his word and if that time should come that he doesn’t keep his word, you address that with him and how disappointed you are that you trusted him to fufill an obligation he set and he didn’t.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

You’re going to ruin it if you say something. Sit tight, and if it doesn’t happen by the end of the first week of January, then talk to him about it.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@mispriss1215: I know that it is going to be extremely hard for you….. but if you can TRY your hardest not to say anything…. you just never know what he may have planned for you…. you may “think”  he is working late and he could have scheduled to get off early…..or anything…. you said that he always keeps his word so don’t count him out just yet…

Good Luck to you!!!! Keep us posted!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would wait for about a week after New Years and then say something!  You can do it!

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