- 7 years ago
Hi, this is my first post, so I’m a little nervous, but I really need some advice. No one I know is able to give me advice on this, because I am in a situation that no one I know has been in before.
I am not engaged, but my boyfriend and I have plans to get married in the future. We have been together for over two years now, and have an absolutely wonderful relationship. All of my friends are jealous of it. I love him so much, and he loves me. We trust each other completely. We have excellent communication skills. We even have extremely compatible, if not the same, life goals and outlooks. He is absolutely the perfect guy.
My problem is that I have been having these feelings recently. Not for another guy, just about our relationship. I get annoyed or embarrassed by things that he does that used to not annoy or embarrass me. On top of that, I just don’t feel the same. I still love him, but I feel like there is a little something missing, but I have no idea what that something is. And I am getting really frustrated, because we are so great for each other, and I don’t want to have these feelings anymore. He treats me so well, always shows he loves me, and deserves to get everything good in this world. I want to give him that, but I’ve just been feeling so blah that I feel like I haven’t, and it kills me.
I am young, just turned 20. He is only slightly older than me, and will turn 21 soon. We have been together since our senior year in high school.
What I want to know is this: are my feelings normal feelings that occur after a relationship has been going on for a while, or do I need to take a break and date other people? I am so torn, because I absolutely love him, but I want to fix whatever I am feeling before we take any more serious steps in the future. We are very open, but I am afraid to talk to him about how I’m feeling because he is a very sensitive guy, and I don’t want him to take things the wrong way. I don’t know how to word it. Help me, please. What should I do? And sorry for the length, I just need help.