- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
When I first got engaged, my mother in law right away told me and FI that she will send us to Miami for our honeymoon. Our plans have always been Miami since she promised us and showed us the tickets and everything. 3 months til my wedding, just yesterday, she tells my FI that she doesn’t think us going to Miami will be such a great idea since it is a 14 hour drive… FI and me had been looking at flights for weeks to find the most affordable one and also to rent a car… we did mention driving but was never sure about it. So my MIL said she is going to send us to San Antonio for our honeymoon without us putting in our opinion. Her excuse was that the drive was going to be too much, and San Antonio is only 4 hours from where we live….I think that she wants to go on vacations with her husband since she already booked a hotel for june 30 using the tickets that were supposedly for us. I know that I can’t really say anything since it was her paying for it all, but it just made me so sad that for a whole year, FI and I have been planning and talking about our honeymoon and just 3 months before the wedding…no more miami. So, I don’t know what to do, I don’t know how to talk to her. I don’t wanna go to SA, I already told my FI that I won’t accept the trip to SA and I’m also not asking her for the tickets to Miami… I feel like I just don’t want her help at all anymore. I wanna go to Miami, FI and I are going to pay for our trip and my dad is going to help. Now my MIL has bud in so much in my wedding, I wanted to have Italian food for my wedding, she want’s Mexican… but Me the BRIDE, I want Italian… she keeps saying no to it… I’ve never disrespected her or ever raised my voice at her but my gosh…. When I tried on dresses, she didn’t like the one I loved, but she loved the one I hated and all day she just kept saying “that one looked better on you, you shouldnt get the lace one” I completly ignored her and got the one that I loved. She’s budding in to everything and I don’t know how to put a stop to it… My FI already told her to quit and she doesn’t. I talked to my sis about the whole honeymoon situation and she said that I can’t do anything about it since they were her tickets but she would feel so bummed and annoyed if her MIL would have canceled 3 months before the wedding on the honeymoon. What do ya’ll think? What would you have done? I’m still going to Miami, FI and I are paying, but I just feel like baah about the whole thing.