(Closed) What should I do?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Should I:
    Stay at current job, put off Ttc and buying a house : (7 votes)
    17 %
    Find another job in the private sector, take a paycut, but Ttc and start looking for a house : (7 votes)
    17 %
    Just Ttc and worry about the job later (I live in Canada so I would get a year mat leave anyways : (27 votes)
    66 %
    Who cares? I just want to vote! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    I didn’t vote as I couldn’t choose between the 2nd and 3rd options ๐Ÿ™‚ How important is it to both of you to own a house before you TTC? If you don’t much care either way, that’s what I’d put on the backburner. I’d stay in your current job, apply for other jobs you think look interesting, and start TTC whenever. If a house is more important to both of you right now, I’d stay in your current job, look harder for other jobs that would be more permanent and secure, and start looking for a house. I’d put a limit on this plan though – maybe until your 30th or Christmas or something? And see how you’re going then. Good luck – it’s fun being an adult sometimes isn’t it ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 4
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    You don’t need to own a house to have a baby. You really don’t need more than a 1 or 2 bedroom apartment. If what you want is a baby, there shouldn’t be a whole lot standing in your way, unless you couldn’t even afford the apartment/other living expenses on one income plus whatever other small job you could get. If it were me, though, i’d likely put off TTC for one year, just to see if I could get my job situation stabilized and more savings in the bank!

    Post # 7
    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I think you should go for it.  There is never a really perfect time.  You obviously have skills and education and will be able to make it work somehow.

    I’ve read quite a few stories from women who start to ttc in their 30s.  Part of it is getting married closer to that age, but another part is that you’ve spent a long time “planning” everything: education, career, etc. and you want to “plan” the baby too.  For some people this works and the plan is perfect, but for others (me and many more) the plan has to be put aside.  For me it’s because we just can’t seem to get pregnant. I can’t control everything.

    It’s a really stressful decision and I can’t say with 100% surety that I’m offering the correct advice, but that’s my take…

    Post # 8
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If you get a year of maternity leave then you are technically worrying about something that could be 2+ years away. If you are able to live off of DH’s income then you can try to put your income into a savings account for a down payment on a house. They you could have your house, and find another job after your maternity leave is over if your job hasn’t offered you a permanent position yet.

    Post # 12
    5892 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think you should put off TTC for at least 6 months, maybe even 9 months. By then you will either have a permanent job (with the current place or have found another one) or know you won’t be able to get a permanent job for a while. Then TTC. If you have a permanent job great. If you don’t, then taking maternatiy leave isn’t a big deal because you will have to leave your current job anyway (have 3 month extensions is just too stressful and if they wanted you they would have found a way to keep you).

    Post # 13
    47 posts
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Hi, Wow I really understand how hard it is to see other people getting pregnant when it’s all you really want to do. I’m sorry you’re having a tough time. But I do want to add that bringing a baby into a financially stable family is really important. In Canada, without a permanent position, you will not recieve top up benefits from your employer during your mat leave (although not all employers even give top ups). Also, while you technically get a year mat leave, what this means is IF you were employed full time before starting your mat leave, you would recieve unemployment benefits for 12 months (which max out at $400/week, but is based on whatever your salary was before you left work. You’d need to earn about $80,000/year to get $400/week. give or take) So financially speaking, Mat leave is no different than being unemployed. If you can’t only live on your DH’s salary, then it sounds like this may not be an option for you. I know its hard, but the wisest choice for your family might be to delay TTC until you find something permanent. The great thing is you have a foot in the door with the Government. I think they have awesome mat leave benefits. My SIL (CND gov employee) receives 95% of her pay for a full 12 months of mat leave! Good luck with your decision.

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