What should I do!?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

My personal opinion…don’t.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’d never heard that July is the best time to buy a diamond so I went off and Googled it. This article (http://www.nypl.org/blog/2011/12/06/how-buy-diamond) says: “The best time to obtain a good deal on larger diamonds is often the summer (particularly in July and August.) This is because the best times for retailers to “move” diamonds (especially large ones) include the Holiday Season (especially before Christmas), Valentine’s Day (second best time for diamond retailers after Christmas), April – June (primarily due to the timing of weddings). However, the most difficult time for retailers is the summer — which is when a consumer would certainly do best on the price for a large diamond or a small diamond.”

If he’s at the point where he’s looking to buy a ring in the next 3-4 months, I’d mention the discount to him casually the next time he brings up the proposal, ring shopping, or getting engaged.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think it depends on where you and your SO are in the pre-engagement phase. Are you actively discussing it and looking for a ring? Is SO saving up for it? Or is he still not quite there yet but you just happened to have found the ring?

If you two are actively looking together, I think it’s fine.

If, however, it’s still a tricky subject…I would steer clear and hope another sale comes at the time when he is considering making a purchase.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Helloemi:  Well, I would be completely unsubtle about it, but my SO understands me. This is how it would go down.

Me: “OMG What a deal?” Him: “What’s that?” Me: “My dream ring is on SALE! for 4K LESS!” Him: “Cool.” Me: “Can I show it to you? I just wanted you to see it.” Him: “Sure, whatever.”

So yeah, plant the idea, and go from there. I used your numbers, but that’s pretty much how the convo went when I found my ring. We’d gone looking at Kay’s, and went home and I texted him that it was ON SALE online for like 100 off, and we went and got it the next day. YAY sales!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I was with my now-FI for seven years before we got engaged.  Being together for 5 1/2 years without him looking for a ring doesn’t mean he’ll never do it.  If the plan is for you two to get married and you’re both on the same page about that, then he’ll get his butt in gear at some point.  I would just be nervous that you bringing this to his attention, if you haven’t been talking about marriage, rings, etc. on the regular, would make you seem pushy / scare him off and make him feel pressured.

I honestly think you’ll appreciate the experience of the proposal much more if you leave him in the driver’s seat and let yourself be surprised.  It’s so much more romantic and exciting that way, and meaningful that he went through all of the effort to find your ring on his own, in my opinion.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I wouldn’t, but I’m biased. I was always for the guy picking out the ring and deciding on when/how to propose. I never understood how showing a guy your “perfect” ring would be seen as positive and not nagging or whatever. I dunno, I guess it works for some people. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Camp Hope

I found mine at 75% off. I showed SO since we had been looking at them together. He ordered it within 3 days of seeing the sale. It is now being made as we speak and will ship somewhere between July 15th-19th. I told my SO that I wasn’t showing him this to try to push an engagement in the near future but I did want him to save a good chunk of money. Even after he ordered my ring I kept telling him how I didn’t mean anything by showing him the ring other than it was on a major sale. He assured me that he wasn’t going to change his plans but he loved that he got it at such a good price. I would show him since it is such a HUGE price difference in your favor. That savings could be used towards your dream dress or even a down payment on a house. I hope this helps. I was somewhat in your situation a few days ago. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I would only show your SO the sale if you knew for sure he was thinking about getting a ring within the next few months. If you think it could be another year or so I wouldn’t just yet. If you two are thinking about getting a ring he might be like “Wow I’m lucky, my girl sure is price savvy and saved me a ton of cash!”.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

@Helloemi:  omg I didn’t know this, wish I would have so I could have brought it up waaay earlier to my bf :/

you could really emphasize that you’re not trying to pressure or anything but you found your dream ring on sale, it doesn’t mean he has to propose now but you’re watching over his finances and if he’s planning on ever doing so, it might be a good idea to save some money from the ring?

tough choice :/ I know I’d love to tell my bf to get it now after reading this post but it makes me nervous to think he’d panic thinking I am telling him to propose now…

and totally understand all the talking about it yet no planning.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

It really depends on your relationship. How does he respond to talking about being engaged? Have you talked about rings before?

If it was me I would show him. But DH and I talked openly about our engagement because we both felt like communicating about the biggest decision of our lives was more important than a surprise. He still planned a big, romantic proposal though. He’s the best 🙂

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