What Should I do?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@vintagebride143:  I agree with your FI. A year of no contact is a long time, especially since your number never changed.

Post # 4
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1905 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

If it was someone who hadn’t made an attempt to talk to me in a year, she would not be in my bridal party.

That doesn’t mean that she doesn’t care about you.. but you certainly weren’t a priority.

Post # 5
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@vintagebride143:  People always say that you will offend someone if you ask them after the fact, but I was asked to be a bridemaid pretty last minute by a friend and wasn’t offended at all.  Another friend recently asked me to be in her wedding after asking everyone else and I returned the favor.  It doesn’t matter.

 

 In both cases it was because they hadn’t seen me in a while, hung out with me, realized how much fun I was, and wanted me to be a part of their day. I’m cool with that.  I am honored to be asked. Girls are wayyyy too sensitive.  You literally had no way to contact her. If the friendship still feels the same after 6 months, ask her to be a bridesmaid. She won’t be offended.

 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@vintagebride143:  I think you should definitely give it some time (to be sure she doesn’t go MIA again) and then you can ask her if you still feel so strongly. I don’t think it would be offensive to her if you ask her to be a bridesmaid after the fact, since you didn’t speak for so long and you recently rekinkled the friendship.. Nothing wrong with that.

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