What should I do about my Dads girlfriend at our weddding? Please help!

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think you have to invite her. She’s been living with your dad for 2 years. By most people’s definitely – that’s a serious, long term couple. And, more importantly, your dad wants her to be invited. I think you have to do things based on the relationship as it stands, not what you think will happen in the future. It is, however, totally acceptable to not have her in all the photos. As for the breakfast, I’m not really sure of the setup is, as mine was casual and didn’t have assigned seating – could you just have similar seating from the wedding reception?

Post # 3
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

You need to act like you don’t know that information about him wanting to break up with her. It is your dad and you should give him a plus one. Make sure to have pics of just you guys with your dad but if there are group shots, then invite her in. It’s a definite you need to invite her. Thier relationship is just that..their relationship. What if he changes his mind and they are together another 10, 20 or more years? You never know. He’s with her now, they live together, you need to invite her. 

Post # 5
535 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You need to accept that she’s coming. Regarding the photos, simply instruct your photographer to make sure she gets some shots with just immediate family. Carry on.

Post # 6
1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

She doesn’t have to be in the photos at all. She’s just a girlfriend (soon to be ex). Just tell her only SO’s who are actually married to the family can be in the pictures. Or engaged if you want. Whatever. For my family boyfriends/girlfriends weren’t included in pictures at events like that. Once we got engaged, they were included.

Post # 7
1532 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Normally I woud say you have to invite Dad’s GF, but  can not tell if she is the GF or just a roommate.  I woud say to him that she is invited if he wants.  I would not include her in pictures.  It doesnt sound like he wants her in pictures with you /groom and him.   If she doe come to wedding, try to arrange in advance for someone to distrct her during pictures. 

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