(Closed) What should I do about my menu

posted 4 years ago in Food
Post # 3
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m not going to lie, I don’t understand how you’ve gotten this far (without having a mental breakdown) not knowing the cost of the meal choices.  That seems like something you know before you book a vendor.  Anyway, I think you have two choices:

1. Contact your guests who you know are coming/ or once you get a yes RSVP – split them up by group (you call/text/email as appropriate you friends, your FI his, maybe you can get your parents to help out with each respective side of the family) and just explain your plans changed, etc. and ask their choice.  If you have a wedding website maybe you could put something on there as well (you could even set up the RSVP function just to do the meal choice, maybe you can get some responses that way). 

2. Just guess as best you can how many people will want what, do a bit over on the safe choice like chicken and then hope you don’t run out of the fish, etc. Kind of like airplane style.  This is less work for you but not as good for your guests.

Good luck!

Post # 4
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531 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Is a buffet an option? Perhaps ask to speak to manager, tell him or her that due to their coordinators lack of communication , you are in a position where you can’t gather meal preferences as invites have been mailed.  Maybe they will discount the station menu a little or allow you to do seated meal without knowing the individual amounts needed(they always make extras of options anyway, people change their minds.) worst case , maybe they can add in an extra for your trouble , perhaps extra setup during cocktail hour , extra hor d oeuvres or maybe a signature drink or dessert buffet ?  Can’t hurt to ask! Sorry that you had to deal w crappy coordinator, I had to call about 5 x to get  my venue coordinator in other to get a call or email back and these were routine guestions and I’m super sweet and very submissive def not bridezilla ! 

Post # 5
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922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I recommend either a buffet or “family style” dinner. The family style is where each table gets large serving bowls or platters of a variety of food choices (meats, sides, bread, etc). It usually costs about the same as a plated meal, if it’s an option. Some venues are willing to work with you on this. Neither of these options would require anymore feedback from your guests. They can chose what they want from a variety of options.

Post # 7
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720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think there are some places that do a seated meal where like a restaurant they only choose their entree at the table. You should see if that’s an option. Otherwise I’d see if you could do a buffet, which is usually cheaper than stations.

Post # 9
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922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That’s good they can work with you!  I thought you were straying from the stations because of the cost.  Will they not help you do a buffet or other style seated dinner?  If you go with those stations, personally that would be enough food for me as a guest.  I tend not to eat a lot with all the action going on and dancing.

Post # 12
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183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Southerngirl4234:  Glad to hear they will work with you! Can’t believe they waited that long to finalize a menu with you!! Our venue wants us to sit down next month to finalize the menu for our buffet style dinner.  I think the stations are a great idea, and I think that’s enough options – Like GeorgiaBride said, people tend to eat less with all the dancing going on!  One of the venues we looked at explained that buffet/stations cost more because the venue has to make food, rather than having exact amounts on hand, they have to have enough to feed all options to ALL guests.

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