Post # 1
So, pretty much everyone has RSVP’D execept for 14 people. Yesterday I get a rsvp from my FI aunt that she will be bringing 7 people????. That’s another issue I have to deal with!!The invite was only for her and her husband not her adult kids and wifes.
Anyway, that will be 5 extra people that I didn’t expect plus I thought that we would have some NOs, but that’s not the case here. I’m hoping out of the 14 people that are left maybe 8 will say yes and just leave everything as is. Otherwise I will have to move things around after my ceremony. My ceremony and reception will be taking place at a Historic Mansion so I was planning on having my ceremony inside and reception in the back pation of the house. So now that I’m counting exactly how many people I have I might have reached my limit of the capacity for the ceremony which holds only 100 people. The patio holds 150 people which is good but that means I would have to move things around right after the ceremony and hire people to set up the tables and chairs etc…I just didn’t want to do that and buy more food and linens and centerpieces. I’ve heard many times that not everyone shows up on time for the ceremony and I also heard that I should expect less that what I invited, but this doesn’t seem to be the case!!! What should I do???
Post # 3
No, no, no, no, no!
Do not accept this!
I’m sure the bees will have a better way or wording it, but you need to phone and say:
‘I’m sorry, but due to space constraints the invite was adressed to x and x. I do not have the space to accomodate the extra guests you have added on, I’m afraid it is just x and x.’
What is she actually thinking!?!?
And if it is past your RSVP deadline feel free to phone people up and ask if they are coming or not.
Post # 4
” Hi Aunt ___.I was so happy to hear that you and Uncle ___ are able to attend my wedding. Unfortunately, the size of the venue does not allow us to accomodate any extra guests. I’m sure you understand. We look forward to seeing you both at the wedding.”
Post # 5
I think you need to talk to her. Maybe since it’s your fiance’s aunt, could your FMI call and talk to them? Then you don’t have to be the one to give them bad news.
If you don’t talk to her, that is a lot of extra money you would have to spend.
Post # 7
People make no sense to me some times! I would do like the PPs suggested and just tell her no way in much nicer words
Post # 8
Blame the venue! I had people invite themselves via my facebook wall (no, not kidding), and I just gave the cookie cutter “Due to venue restrictions, we are unable to accomodate extra guests. We look forward to seeing X another date and celebrating with them at that time”. DO NOT let this woman create her own guest list- stand up for yourself!!!!! Have either FI or FMIL call them, you shouldn’t have to be the bad guy.
Post # 9
Thank you, I will do that!. I was reading and my venue only holds 120 not 150! So, I’m hoping that people that are left do not RSVP…I will talk to my mother in law and have her talk to them since it’s her brother’s wife that is doing this.