- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
My Maid/Matron of Honor, and sister, just asked me what I wanted to do about my bridal shower/bachelorette festivities and I can’t decide what to do.
Fiance and I are having a private ceremony, just us, his son and his mother. After the ceremony, we will have a cocktail hour and dinner for 25 of our closest friends and family. We are on a tight budget and so we had to be pretty cut throat with our choices, as sad as that is.
Here is the sticky thing, I’ve got an aunt, female cousins, my sister’s mother (we have the same father), and my godmother, all of whom I’ve been close with at some point in my life. Even though I’m not as close to them as I once was, I would still like to celebrate with them and have their blessings (my cousins asked my sister about a shower, so I’m guessing maybe they want to participate?) I know that sounds kind of weird, but I’m really sentimental and they are all important to me wither or not I see them all the much.
I’m aware of the rule that you don’t invite people to the shower that aren’t invited to the wedding. So I’m trying to figure out how I can include all the ladies. We aren’t planning a crazy bachelorette, just a nice dinner.
I also don’t want any of ladies that aren’t invited to the reception to think that I just want them to come so I can get a gift, I want their company and their blessings. Actually, I don’t want anybody to think that they have to buy me a gift. The registry is more for our parents to buy from anyway.
Should I have a bridal shower with only the invited reception guests and then have a bachelorette dinner with reception guests AND the other ladies. I figure this eliminates the gifting option since bachelorettes aren’t technically gift giving occasion? I would have my Maid/Matron of Honor field any gift questions from the other ladies. I would have her tell them that their presence is more than enough.
Any other suggestions? I’m trying to include as many people anyway I can because we did have to make a lot of cuts for our reception.