What should I do with my wedding band?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK

Could you combine both rings into one? use the metal from your new ring and the diamonds from your grandmothers?

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

To be honest, I don’t see how it’d be your grandmothers ring if you’re resetting it. 

Couldn’t you keep her ring as it is and have it as a RHR?

Or as PP said, use your grandmother’s diamonds in your wedding band.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

annb9:  How sweet of your grandmother to give you her ring!  I would keep both bands and wear your grandmother’s ring as a right hand ring.  Or you can always stack it with the existing set or just with your band if you ever don’t feel like wearing your e-ring.  Mixing metals is a great look and in your case, it would add some sentiment to it too.  

Both of the bands are gorgeous BTW!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

This is just my opinion, but if you’re resetting all the diamonds, it’s no longer your grandmother’s ring? I wouldn’t be able to melt down a beautiful family heirloom because it didn’t match…. if you’re concerned about matching, I would stick with the one you have bought.

Sorry if that comes across a little harsh, it’s not meant to! Does your grandma mind if you melt her ring down?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

annb9:  I agree with some PP – keep your grandma’s ring as a RHR! I agree that it’s really not the same if it is re-set. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I agree with others. It’s not your grandmother’s ring if you reset the diamonds and not use the setting. Then it’s just a ring that has your grandmother’s diamonds. Family heirlooms are priceless to me. I would never in twenty billion years disassemble it because it was the wrong color. But, if that’s what you want to do, more power to you. Just sell the other ring (You won’t get full price for it) or just keep it for a rainy day if you want to swap out or whatever.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK

annb9:  they are both really pretty! I mean melt down the metal you have for your platinum band and re-use this to set your grandmothers diamonds, that way it’s still your original wedding band with heirloom stones. you dont have to use the diamonds that came in your platinum setting.

or have your grandmothers diamonds set in an entirely different band and have it as an aniversary ring?

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My MIL passed down her late mothers wedding band to me. I was absolutely honored and felt so loved as she has 3 other daughter in laws. It is, however, yellow gold, which is not my preferance but it is beautiful. I will be ordering my ering and wedding band here in the next few weeks and I have been racking my brain about what I was going to do with the heirloom wedding band.

I orginially planned to wear it as the band and just get a ering but I didn’t like the way they looked together so I will be ordering a plain white gold with diamonds (similar to yours) to wear with my ering and I am thinking that I will wear the heirloom band on my right ring finger.

I also thought to have the heirloom band replated with white gold but I decided that that would change the ring too much and I wanted it to be the same as when my MIL and her late mother wore it.

I hope that helps you make your choice.

I do think the wedding band that your grandmother gave you is beautiful- have you thought about just stacking them? Ering, your grandmothers ring then your new wedding band?

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

AH! I didn’t see your comment about your grandmother wanting you to reset it- in that case, I do like Splodge2003’s idea about melting it down and using her diamonds.

That sounds costly but I have no idea.

Good luck!

Will you repost when it’s all done? I am curious to see how that will turn out!

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’d just keep the wedding band and wear it as a stand in when you don’t want to wear the wedding set.  You’re not going to get much for it even as brand new trying to sell it so it wouldn’t be worth selling imo.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

I would leave your wedding band as is.  I would put your grandmothers diamonds into another band. Maybe something different than your band and wear them all together.  the band that grandmas diamonds are in now is quite different maybe something along that line in platinum. 

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