Post # 1
Merry Christmas, bees! I find myself in need of a little advice from the hive…
My mom passed away three years ago this Christmas. She had quite a bit of jewelry – and my stepdad is slowly but surely giving it to me and my sister each year for Christmas/b-days.
Trouble is, my taste in jewelry and my mom’s were really not the same. To date, I’ve graciously thanked SD, and then for the most part, relegated the pieces to the back of my jewelry box. With the exception of one ring, I haven’t really worn any if it.
The ring I got this year is just…ugly. I can’t see myself ever wearing it. The ring has seven SMALL sapphires and six diamond (chips), set in a heavy, rather strange yellow gold setting. I hate to say it, but it’s hideous… Unfortunately, I’ve never been able to post an image from my phone, so cant do so today – but I can update tomorrow, for better reference.
I’ve got some ideas about what to do – see the poll above. Considering having the stones reset, but the value of the stones may not justify the cost. It would just be a way to somewhat preserve the sentimentality. I might do better to trade it in?
What are your thoughts?
Please give me some advice on what to do with it?
Post # 3
@codysgirl16: you can melt the gold and create a new ring, necklace, pendant with the sapphire and diamonds to make it more modern.
Post # 4
@otto2008: thats what I would do. I would make it into something that was symbolic or something I would wear often that way I could keep it, the sentiment and be happy to wear it.
Post # 5
Would it be possible to talk to your stepdad and ask to trade in the ring for another ring in her collection? If not, then sell it for the gold or save the sapphires and diamonds and have them reset.
Post # 6
I thought about turning it into a half eternity band – but I would have to ditch the eensy diamonds and replace those (could use white sapphires or mouser I suppose?). But what if the stones’ value isn’t worth the expense of resetting?
Post # 7
@codysgirl16: I would trade some pieces in to Schubach and have them craft a new ring using the gold. I would just forget about the stones if they’re not nice and worth wearing. If you don’t like yellow gold, I’d trade the rings in to offset the cost of having a custom piece made.
You could also post the gold pieces on eBay. You list them individually in auctions and start the auction at the current melt value of the gold. Someone will buy it to wear, or buy it as scrap, which is more likely.
Just bc these items belonged to your mom doesn’t mean you need to hoard them all or utilize the stones and/or gold. It seems you do have at least one item you wear. That’s enough.
Post # 8
@otto2008: + 1000 Awesome idea!!
Post # 9
@GoldfishPie: eh – not sure I really want to go there. TBH, I’m not sure how much of her stuff I actually WOULD wear… Sis got the big rock, and I’m not sure what happened to her diamond earrings…
My sis and I were supposed to go through everything this year and pick out our preferred pieces – but I didn’t end up going back east because of flight costs. Not sure where that whole situation stands.
Post # 10
Sorry, all – my reply function isn’t, er, functioning! :/
Post # 11
@IheartUFC: lol hoard them… That’s kind if how I feel.
Its weird – I know that she used to see a piece that she loved – and would have no issue taking something of hers that she didn’t love as much and trade it in. I’m not sure how my sis would feel about this. There’s one ring that I have now – I remember it from childhood – but its just not something I will wear. My sis would freak if I traded it in or melted it down…
Post # 12
As the other Bees have said you have options… in order to LOVE and wear something from your Mom now. (As is… or by restyling it)
Or sell it… and take the cash.
BUT you should also think about the following too:
FACT – Fashion is a circular kind of thing… what you think “Hideous” NOW was very much in Fashion during your Mom’s time… and no doubt will be all the rage again in the future… even just because it is “Vintage”
Witness the resurged interest in stuff from the 1960s and earlier…
So you could also opt just to HOLD ON TO IT… as is.
And pass it on to a future member of your Family (Daughter, Son, Niece etc)
Someone will find it AMAZING that they own a piece of family history / heritage
Witness all the Bees who are chafing at the bit to get a Heirloom Ring from their Grandmas or off EBay from the 1930s, 1920s or earlier… Art Deco – Edwardian Era – Victorian Era etc.
Hope this helps,
Post # 13
@TTR: I appreciate your perspective – but it really is quite ugly!! I wish I knew how to post a pic from my phone! And don’t get me wrong – I don’t want to cash out – I just want something I will wear…
Post # 14
Maybe you could try trading the jewelry you never wear with your sister for something you would wear.
Post # 15
It depends on how sentimental you are, but I would certainly check with other family members before you consider selling or trading in the belongings of a deceased loved one.
I would never forgive someone who sold estate jewelry outside the family– your sister or SD might have cherished memories of her wearing it or something?
So change it if you want, keep it and wear it or don’t, give it to your own daughter someday, or give it to your sister….but don’t sell it!
Post # 16
@codysgirl16: It’s likely that the value of the stones is NOT worth the workmanship bill. Tiny gemstones are worth pretty much nothing on the second hand market.
Sell the thing for it’s gold value while gold prices are high, that’s what I’d do. unsentimental person that I am.