- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I must be bored at work because I am finding things to post about (and probably annoying the community lol).
I am a pretty blunt person, especially with my MIL, but when it comes to my pregnancy and the baby, I’ve actually been very careful about what I say since this is her first grandchild. I posted a while back about how my MIL is buying stuff for the baby before she even knows the gender.
The Bees told me I can’t tell her what to do with her money. While this is true can I say anything at all, and if so how do I go about it?
The reason I ask is because it now stretches beyond a $10 onsie. I’m only 17 weeks, so while I have been creating a PRIVATE Amazon baby wishlist, I haven’t made a definite registry yet, and we have not yet told people what we need or want. I have spent HOURS researching brands, makes, models, safety ratings, all that jazz of different products to ensure that baby is getting the safest and best we can, all while making it easier for me.
MIL texted DH and said she wants to buy us a $200 changing table. She said it is wooden and has a bunch of drawers for stuff.
Bees–I don’t want a changing table whether its $200 or $2000. I want a dresser top one, a portable one, or I’m just going to lay a blanket on the floor and get ‘er done. I want a BoBee diaper/wipe caddy to hold all that stuff. I already have an empty dresser for all baby’s stuff that will match the crib we get. I don’t want a changing table and especially a wood one because I break out from some types of wood. I don’t want to clutter up our room with stuff we don’t need (she’s a hoarder so she doesn’t understand this). I don’t want her wasting $200 on an item that I neither like nor want nor will use.
And the selfish biotch in me doesn’t want it if it isn’t what I picked out for our baby. I spent so much time researching and getting DH’s opinion that, to have her just buy whatever she wants, makes me kind of huffy.
She has always been the type of person who asks what you want for birthdays and Christmas and then gets you something other than what you asked for. I just feel, with our baby, I don’t want to sacrifice the items I put so much time and research into for what SHE thinks our baby should have.
Now, I know she could keep it at her house, but, again, how do you go about even telling her something like that? DH ended up telling her that I have done a lot of research, and I have a big list of what we need and want for the baby, so she should check with me. She told him “that’s ok then.” I assume, by that, she emant, ‘That’s ok. I’d rather not.” Because she has yet to ask me on anything. She always goes to DH (granted, it’s her son, but he is always telling her he doesn’t know and I do the research). DH is very passive, so I assume she thinks if she asks him over me she will get the response she wants.
Anything I can say or do or am I just stuck getting stuff I don’t need or want? I have to figure something out because if she notices it isn’t set up she will ask anyway. She does that with every single Christmas gift she’s ever bought for DH. I also have to because she doesn’t know what she is doing. She is coimpletely clueless. She honestly suggested us using DH’s crib from 1985 for our baby, which is illegal and unsafe. *sigh*