Post # 1
My boyfriend and I are going on a mini trip with his best friend and best friend’s gf. The two of them had been together for 6 years sometime during last football season (I’m horrible for not remembering even the month…)
However, I was reading (i’ve been lurking for a long time) about girls who have been waiting for an engagement and hate it when it gets brought up. My bf and I have been together almost a year.
I know sometimes when we spend time together, it comes up how long they’ve been together. I’m honestly impressed. They started dating at 15 and 16 and are still together. But I don’t want to seem insensitive talking about it. I just want to know how to convey to them that I’m impressed and look up to them as a relationship model (they seem to be very strong and stable especially for our college senior age group).
Post # 3
@Cornmuffin09: I think you can say things along the lines of “you guys work so well together” or “you are such a great couple” without causing offence. “When are you two getting hitched?” or “When do you think you will pop the question/he hill pop the question/get engaged” can rub people the wrong way. I have a friend who is waiting who hates when people ask her when they will get engaged/married because she doesn’t know, and feels like the ball is out of her court. And I know he hates getting asked too because it just adds unnecessary pressure (they’ve been together 5.5 years and were waiting to be employed in their chosen fields, now that he has a job we’re not sure when he will propose). I love hearing when my friends say things like “you and your FI have such a mature relationship” or “I hope my BF and I can form a bond as strong as you two have”. Those kinds of compliments are appropriate regardless of whether you’re dating/engaged/married.
Post # 4
Ah thank you. I know I’ve asked my bf when they were getting married or engaged, and he said he wasn’t sure. It seems really obvious now, and I am sadly one of those stupid people who have said, “you guys have been dating so long!” Thankfully, I think I followed it quickly with a “It’s incredible!”
Probably didn’t totally help, but I just want to keep myself from making such a mistake again. So thank you!