Post # 1
Here’s my delimma:
My FI will be walking in (down the aisle as there is no sneaky side door for him to come in through) wearing a tux with tails. When he gets to the front, he will be taking off the coat and draping it on the chair where his father, who passed away when we were in highschool, would have sat. This is how he wants to honor his dad (the thing his dad always talked about from his wedding was that he wore a tux with tails). Although tails are way overly formal for our wedding, I love this idea and, more importantly, so does my FI.
So … what should the best man (he doesn’t have any other groomsmen) wear? My concern is that FI’s formality level is going to change drastically from walking in wearing a tux with tails to being jacket-less during the ceremony.
Post # 3
@DaniLyn: What are you and the bridesmaids wearing? What time of day is the ceremony?
Post # 4
@DaniLyn: Are we talking about White Tie:
Or Morning Dress:
Post # 5
Sorry aobut that last pcture – White Tie:
Post # 6
@julies1949: I’m wearing a lacey cap sleeve A-line/Fit ‘n flare (it’s kind of in between on me) floor length dress. We’re going bridesmaid dress shopping next week, so I don’t know exactly but we’re thinking knee-length with straps in coral or light green.
The ceremony is outdoors at 3:30
@Duncan: We don’t have FI’s picked out yet (I wanted to have an idea for the best man before we did). I didn’t even know there were multiple types! I’ll have to ask FI. Thanks for asking that – it helped me learn something new!
Post # 7
Would he consider having a second jacket? He could place his jacket on the chair for his Dad then slip on another jacket.
I think you risk the pics looking a little weird with him standing there in a shirt and tuxedo pants.
Post # 8
@DaniLyn: For 3:30, Morning Dress is correct. Nothing is stopping you from ignoring/breaking the rules, just letting you know what they are.
If you do morning dress, the best man will look good in one of two things. Option 1, a solid suit. Navy, charcoal, or medum grey would all look equally good. Option 2, is a stroller, which is the semi-formal version of a Morning Coat (cutaway in the US). The outfit is the same as full morning dress, but with a short coat, instead of a tailcoat.
Morning Dress primer:
White Tie primer:
There are a cuple of other sites for Morning Dress that are very detailed, if he decides to go that route:
Some inexpensive options for purchasing parts of either (you can rent either one, too):
And, an even larger list is here:
Post # 9
Sorry for taking so long to reply – busy weekend!
@julies1949: I’m a bit worried about that too. We’ll see when he tries it on.
@Duncan: Thank you for letting me know the rules. If I’m breaking any, I like to be aware of them 🙂 Also thank you for all the resources! It’s really helpful!
Post # 10
First I have to say, that this gesture of your Fiancé honouring his Dad in this way is AWESOME
And Two Thumbs Up for the great info provided by @Duncan: (as always)
Morning Suits are waaaay more classy for a Daytime Wedding than a regular tux & tails (aka Black Tie… which sadly gets mocked too often as the “Penguin Suit” or “Waiter Wear”)
The downside is Morning Suits can be a bit of the challenge sometimes to find in the USA (depending on where you are)
I love Weddings where I see the Groom in Morning Dress tails, and the Groomsmen / Fathers in Strollers… very distinguished. Mind you that kicks things up a notch… but hey you only get married once, you might as well do it up right. And with your Hubby on board anyhow for a Tux, that is the route I’d be taking
Post # 11
@This Time Round: I’m being nit-picky, of course, but a “Tux & Tails” would not be Black Tie. Black Tie requires a dinner jacket. Tails are for White Tie.
Post # 12
To @Duncan: true enough.
I guess what my mind was envisioning didn’t come out right in the post.
I was trying to describe how sometimes here in North America, you’ll see a mix of this look at an Afternoon Evening… some of the Wedding Party in Black Tuxedos, and then others in Black Tails… which essentially is a mish-mash of what ?
Whereas that mix & match is ok for Morning Dress (Groom in tails, Groomsmen in strollers)
I’m still not sure if I’ve explained myself well… but I’m guessing that you might know what I mean.
In my mind, one should pick a State of Dress… and stick with it across the Wedding Party be it Morning – Black Tie – White Tie
Post # 13
@This Time Round: I get what you mean — I was more pointing it out so that it didn’t misinform someone else reading the thread. I figured you probably knew the difference.
I agree that a mix of formality levels works better with day time attire than evening. I think you can have some people in Black Tie, and some in White Tie – I’ve seen “white tie or black tie ” dress codes for events. It works there because everyone is still in the black and white pallette of evening fornal wear.
You’re, of course, right. In North America, we do frequently see mixed levels of formality within a single outfit, and mixtures of day and evening wear. I think mourning dress can go with lounge (regular) suits, but that gets harder with evening attire.