What should my FI's best man wear?

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@DaniLyn:  What are you and the bridesmaids wearing? What time of day is the ceremony?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@DaniLyn:  Are we talking about White Tie:

Or Morning Dress:
 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorry aobut that last pcture – White Tie:

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Would he consider having a second jacket? He could place his jacket on the chair for his Dad then slip on another jacket.

I think you risk the pics looking  a little weird with him standing there in a shirt and tuxedo pants.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@DaniLyn:  For 3:30, Morning Dress is correct. Nothing is stopping you from ignoring/breaking the rules, just letting you know what they are.

If you do morning dress, the best man will look good in one of two things.  Option 1, a solid suit.  Navy, charcoal, or medum grey would all look equally good.  Option 2, is a stroller, which is the semi-formal version of a Morning Coat (cutaway in the US).  The outfit is the same as full morning dress, but with a short coat, instead of a tailcoat.

Morning Dress primer:
http://www.blacktieguide.com/Supplemental/Morning_Dress.htm

White Tie primer:
http://www.blacktieguide.com/Etiquette/Etiquette_Defining_White_Tie.htm

There are a cuple of other sites for Morning Dress that are very detailed, if he decides to go that route:
http://andrewsandpygott.wordpress.com/ 
http://www.morningdressguide.com/

Some inexpensive options for purchasing parts of either (you can rent either one, too):
http://www.clermontdirect.com
http://www.mytuxedo.co.uk
http://www.savvyrow.co.uk
http://www.myowntuxedo.com

And, an even larger list is here:
http://www.blacktieguide.com/Buying/Buying_Retailers.htm 

 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

First I have to say, that this gesture of your Fiancé honouring his Dad in this way is AWESOME

Very classy

And Two Thumbs Up for the great info provided by  @Duncan:  (as always)

Morning Suits are waaaay more classy for a Daytime Wedding than a regular tux & tails (aka Black Tie… which sadly gets mocked too often as the “Penguin Suit” or “Waiter Wear”)

The downside is Morning Suits can be a bit of the challenge sometimes to find in the USA (depending on where you are)

I love Weddings where I see the Groom in Morning Dress tails, and the Groomsmen / Fathers in Strollers… very distinguished.  Mind you that kicks things up a notch… but hey you only get married once, you might as well do it up right.  And with your Hubby on board anyhow for a Tux, that is the route I’d be taking

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@This Time Round:  I’m being nit-picky, of course, but a “Tux & Tails” would not be Black Tie.  Black Tie requires a dinner jacket.  Tails are for White Tie.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To @Duncan:  true enough.

I guess what my mind was envisioning didn’t come out right in the post.

I was trying to describe how sometimes here in North America, you’ll see a mix of this look at an Afternoon Evening… some of the Wedding Party in Black Tuxedos, and then others in Black Tails… which essentially is a mish-mash of what ?

Whereas that mix & match is ok for Morning Dress (Groom in tails, Groomsmen in strollers)

I’m still not sure if I’ve explained myself well… but I’m guessing that you might know what I mean.

In my mind, one should pick a State of Dress… and stick with it across the Wedding Party be it Morning – Black Tie – White Tie

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@This Time Round:  I get what you mean — I was more pointing it out so that it didn’t misinform someone else reading the thread.  I figured you probably knew the difference.

I agree that a mix of formality levels works better with day time attire than evening.  I think you can have some people in Black Tie, and some in White Tie – I’ve seen “white tie or black tie ” dress codes for events.  It works there because everyone is still in the black and white pallette of evening fornal wear.

You’re, of course, right.  In North America, we do frequently see mixed levels of formality within a single outfit, and mixtures of day and evening wear.  I think mourning dress can go with lounge (regular) suits, but that gets harder with evening attire.  

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