Post # 1
My fiancé and I are currently making our registry online, on Bed Bath and Beyond (we don’t plan on going into a store), and it’s got me thinking: what are some things you should NOT put on your wedding registry? Or, what are some things you’ve seen on registries that have made you go “huh?”
(We have only put kitchen items neither of us have, or some random household things, like a laundry drying rack, so I think we are in “okay” territory.)
Post # 2
I’ve never really side-eyed anything on a wedding registry. I assume that the whole point of a registry is to give people an idea of things that you want/need. I’ve also always heard that you should register for one or two expensive things that people can get together and buy for you (like if your office wants to get you an ‘office present’ or something). I mean, I guess if you registered for a sofa or something absolutely huge… But for the most part it’s fair game as long as there’s plenty of cheap little stuff. We even registered for Nerf guns as a sort of gag.
I would say the only things you shouldn’t register for are things you already own that are in good condition/of good quality, and things you know you won’t use.
Post # 3
TheAnonyMouse: A honeymoon. Your wedding. Your mortgage.
Post # 4
A honeymoon or honeyfund, asking for money in any way.
Post # 5
TheAnonyMouse: I think it really just depends on the demographic of your guests. I have a couple of expensive items on our registry that I do not believe anyone will buy us ($90 pillows, $400 memory foam mattress topper, $500 Swingasan from Pier1), but that we want to use the completion coupons for or were just kind of wishful thinking. 95% of our items are reasonable, useful items that we will definitely need. I think you should put whatever you want on your registry, but just be mindful of who is coming to your wedding. A friend of mine registered for top of the line EVERYTHING and honestly, those coming to her wedding are well off, but for many of the items she registered for it was kind of a “huh” for me. I think people can tell when it’s useful items or crap you’re never going to use.
And I will have to disagree with the honeymoon registries mentioned above: I like the idea of them. If it will fly with your guests, go for it. The younger generation will not care.
Post # 6
TheAnonyMouse: I also agree that its not appropriate to register for a honeymoon. If people want to take an expensive trip then it should be on them.
Here is a list of a few things regarding a registry that I found useful
- register for items that you need and will actually use
- make sure the registry includes all price points (5 dollars- whatever your most expensive item is)
- keep checking back to make sure that the registry is still even in terms of items available at the various price points. If guests are buying the less expensive items then feel free to add more of these priced items
- do not feel weird requesting big ticket items- sometimes family and friends will go in as a group to purchase items (i have cousins that did this for my wedding)
- remember to register for items for all rooms of your house (kitchen, bedroom, living room, bathroom)
- do not forget about possibly upgrading items you already have- its always nice to have a new coffee maker, toaster oven, microwave
Hope this helps!
Post # 7
TheAnonyMouse: I would judge your registry by what you would typically buy for someone else’s wedding. It really kind of made me go “OMG” when my cousin who bought us a $40 tea pot had $120 per glass wine glasses on her registry. If you wouldn’t buy it for someone else, don’t put it on your registry.
Post # 9
Overpriced items that could be purchased for half the cost at Walmart. Like a 25$ BB&B garlic press that I could find elsewhere for 8$.
(Can your friends/famiy subtley make it known that BB&B has 20% off coupons all over the place? I got two this summer in the mail. My frugal heart feels sad thinking of guests paying full price, hahaha).
Post # 10
TheAnonyMouse: When I look at registeries I dont think too much about “off the wall items” listed. When we did ours, we registered for ANYTHING we were thinking of needing within a few months of our wedding. Because most stores (BB&B included!) offer a discount on remaining items on your registery.
I had a coworker whose husband registered for a PS3 and games on their registery… I laughed. He just wanted to get it discounted, wasn’t really expecting anyone to buy it.
Now my sister did a honeymoon fund.. personally I didn’t approve. But to each their own =)
Post # 11
I think you can register for whatever you like – as it is just a suggestion of what people can buy you – if they so choose.
We mainly upgraded a lot of things, and know that some people will not want to spend $300 on a cookware set -0 but figured we’d add it anyway. Mmy FI put a new razor on our Target list, knowing that he probably won’t get it – but maybe one of his friends will decide to do that instead of another gift.
As a joke, a friends now-husband scanned a box of mac & cheese on theirs… and I think she said that they ended up getting a few of them. So… you never know!
Post # 12
If you wouldn’t buy it for someone else, don’t put it on your registry. – Misswhowedding
Best advice!! ***applause***
Sorry to highjack this thread but I have a question that’s sort of related: is registering for something like the Clarisonic Mia bad? Technically, my FI could use it, but most likely won’t. What do you think of things that are personal to one person, but not necessarily both? (Another example would be golf clubs if you know that only the groom plays and not the bride.)
Post # 13
I’ve always heard to register for things ranging from cheap to big ticket [just a few big ticket items, though].
As for a honeymoon fund, it is becoming more acceptable, and some people prefer to purchase from it, but I would expect a few guests not to like it so if you were considering one, I’d do a traditional registry as well.
Post # 14
Make sure the things your pick are available in the stores that are near you family. I was shocked that almost everyone bought at the store and didn’t buy online. Also, quiet a few people shopped the weekend before the shower so make sure lots of stuff is available at the local stores for that weekend. Put lots of things in the $40-60 range. People seem to like spending that amount on a gift.
Post # 15
So registering for gift cards would be a no-no? I’ve heard of some celebrities (I think Jamie Lynn Spears?) doing that. But they march to the beat of their own drum.
MrsNG_inJersey: I think registering for specific things like that for your wedding registry isn’t ok. Maybe for a bachelorette party or something. Say, in lieu of lingerie, Sally has registered at Sephora. The wedding isn’t about you only. It’s about your new life together, and people want to help supply the things that will help you start that new life. If I saw that on a registry I certainly wouldn’t buy it.