(Closed) What side will he on when you give birth?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: What side will he on when you give birth?
    Doctor or Midwife's side- sees everything : (3 votes)
    3 %
    My side- doesn't see everything : (70 votes)
    74 %
    Both : (18 votes)
    19 %
    Uhhh, he won't be in the room. : (0 votes)
    Other : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6010 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    My husband was on my side during pushing, but he watched Addie crowning/coming out.  He didn’t think he would want to see anything, but he changed his mind when we were actually in the moment.

    Sometimes doctors/nurses will hold up a mirror so you can see the baby crowning and coming out if you want.  Some women say that it helps them understand how to push more effectively or motivates them to push harder to get the baby out.  πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
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    10851 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    He can be on whatever side he wants to be on, but no matter what I want him to respect my vajayjay for what it did at the end of it all πŸ˜‰ LOL!  I do not want the mirror. I really don’t want to see that happening, LOL!!!!

    Post # 5
    Member
    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Since DH is my coach, he’ll be with me, but I imagine he’ll get down there to see. With Moose, he just stayed with me because we wanted to see nothing.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think I’ll feel kinda alienated if I’m pushing and everyones all down at my hoo hoo.  My husband is the only person I’m allowed to have with me in the room during delivery so he’ll be at my side.  I do not want to see crowning and I’d really prefer my husband not see it either and he doesn’t seem to have any desire to see it, but once she’s got her head out I’m kinda curious and I bet he’ll be too and take a peek. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    2873 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    My side for sure, there are some things you can never ever unsee.

    Post # 10
    Member
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    Whatever he feels like at the time I guess. I’ve asked him and he said that he’ll probably want to stay up with me to make sure I’m ok, but I have a feeling when the time comes he’ll be curious to know what’s going on down there with the baby.

    Post # 11
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    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    They always put the person who goes in with you for the c-section closer to the mother’s head (at least the hospital I went to last did it that way).  So he’ll be wherever they put the seat for him for the c-section.

    I WANTED to watch, but they wouldn’t let me.  Something about it being a c-section… lol.  That’s okay, I’ll be entertained by the monitors the anesthesiologist uses. πŸ™‚  I was the last two times!  (well, at least I was with my daughter until the nurse used my ribs to lean on, then I got some major meds and was totally out of it for a good while.  They could’ve told me the hospital was burning down and I would’ve said “okay, that’s nice” lol)

    Post # 12
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    13101 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    If DH had his way – he wouldn’t be in the room!  He said he’d rather just let my mom take care of me and he’ll join once we have a baby (my mom plans to be there whenever we have our first child).  He’s only kind of kidding.

    But I’ve told him that that will absolutely not be an option and that he will be in the room too and can just stay up by my head.  I’m going to want him there and since I’ll be in labor, I vote my desire trumps his! πŸ™‚

    ETA: My mom, on the other hand, will be on the doctor’s side.  She’s always wanted to see someone give birth (that wasn’t herself) so I’ve told her that she can be there to watch me when the time comes.

    Post # 13
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    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My side – agreed with Panterapeach – better to be left unseen!

    Post # 14
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    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2007

    I never thought it’d be something I’d be shy about, and DH is about a zero on the squeamish side, so I have no reason to worry about his reaction… but… I still have this fear that he’ll see it and think “oh my goodness, I will never get a boner again.”

    Post # 15
    Member
    6010 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I was really worried my husband would never get over that image of Addie being born, but, uh, it didn’t deter him AT ALL.  I think most men have a way of separating “birthing vagina” from “sex vagina.”  πŸ™‚

    Post # 16
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    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’d prefer he be up by my head, but if he really wants to see the show I won’t stop him. When my sister was giving birth, her boyfriend was sitting behind her on th bed (her back to his chest) holding her knees steady. I, on the other hand, was directed to pour that brown liquid stuff out of a squeze bottle like thing (idodide maybe?) onto my sister’s bits and pieces. I didn’t want to have sex for months after that. 

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