- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
How to tell if hes not.
How to tell if hes not.
Well, from all your other posts I’ve seen of yours, seems like you have some serious issues. I think the two of you need to go talk to counselors or something. Get up and do something about it. If it’s an attraction problem, work on the problem. If it’s a relationship problem, work on the relationship.
ETA: to answer your question – he won’t want anything to do with you…common sense.
I don’t know what you are saying. From your previous posts, if your man doesn’t want sex or isn’t attracted to you, do something about it. Make a change, talk to him, go see counselors, dump him….etc….obviously you aren’t happy. Move on. That’s all I’m saying.
@ashasmith: Have you actually spoken to him in an non-accusatory way about your concerns? Darling Husband goes through spells where he doesn’t want sex and it’s not because he doesn’t fancy the pants off me; it’s because he’s tired or depressed or ill (or all three).
Stop asking us and ask him!
Read He’s Just Not That Into You, and then we’ll talk.
+1 to all PP. You need to talk to him and find out how he feels. Maybe he doesn’t feel appreciated or maybe he feels like he can’t talk to you, which would be a good guess since you aren’t talking to him about this important issue.
It’s quite simple, everything that he used to do with you…stops. You can tell when there’s a disconnect in your relationship, you just have to figure out exactly where it is and how to repair it if its even repairable.
In my experience a guy will have sex with you even if he wants nothing else to do with you…. lol. So, I wouldn’t take disinterest in sex as the ONE sign. But I haven’t read your other posts.
When a guy loses interest he starts focusing more on OTHER things. So, cancelling plans, not texting as much or at all during the day, going out with his friends more etc. However, they will still generally come around for a home cooked meal and sex, though….. They’re men that way.
You have 2 choices:
1. Point blank communicaiton is always the best. Don’t whine or cry or nag. Have a straight up conversation. “I have noticed that you are doing x and I wanted to see if everything is ok”.
2. Your other choice is to pull away from him a little bit. See if he responds with “the chase” when you aren’t as available. This can backfire. It doesn’t work with every guy and not every girl can pull it off effectively.
You always have choice #3, if the relationship isn’t going where you want it to go. Break up with him and find someone who IS into you and treats you how you want to be treated.
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