What stopped your baby fever?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@KatiePi:  Seeing my friends have babies! Most of the husbands don’t help with the baby much, it is 90% the mom’s burden, and they get to be “such a great dad” when they change the occassional diaper. Some stopped working to take care of the baby, so they rely on their husbands for money for everything and have no financial independence- even meeting me for lunch is a big ordeal. Realizing I haven’t seen these friends sans baby since birth, but their husband still goes out on the weekends with his buddies, and plays sports on wednesday nights. Even though I know having a baby for me would be different because we aren’t big on traditional gender roles and see each other as equivalent partners and I make more money than he does so I wouldn’t stay at home… seeing their experiences is still enough. I’m also young, so I feel like I can wait several more years.

Post # 4
Member
3210 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Making a baby-ready budget, especially Googling “how much to put into a 529 plan monthly.”

Post # 5
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@HeartsandSparkles:  This x 1000!

Also seeing how my friends’ relationships have changed since they have children. I think being a parent is a beautiful thing but I don’t know anyone who’s relationship hasn’t suffered. I hope it’s just the people I’m around. Most of them argue a lot more and seem to only relate to one another when it comes to the child. 

Post # 6
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1355 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@KatiePi:  Looking at places to vacation on Pinterest. Yep. This is what reminds me why we need to wait a while after we are married to get pregnant. I need a couple more carefree, no babies vacations before I am ready to dedicate my life to a child/children.

Post # 7
Member
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@AlwaysSunny:  I totally agree and have seen the same things among my friends. One of my friends is pregnant right now and they have been marries for 4 years- i hope its different or them! Plus, articles like this- some researchers show non-parents are happier than parents. Other research shows dads are happier than non-parents, but moms are less happy than non-parents. :-/

 http://usat.ly/V2BKdt

Post # 8
Member
852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@CestTresJolie14:  Exactly, we keep looking at holiday destinations as, do it now and Save it as it can be done with kids!

Post # 9
mswallabyBee
2070 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

-Reading birth stories, especially the really painful/horrific ones

-Going on fun vacations and realizing they wouldn’t be the same with a baby in tow. We still want to go on 2-3 big international trips, and with little vacation time, we can really only do one a year.

-Seeing friends with babies do all the work while their husbands go out all the time and act like single guys.

-Sleeping in on the weekends. I’ll miss that so much once we have kids! Not that we sleep in that late (usually until 8ish) but I’ll miss the freedom of sleeping in late if we stay out late the night before. Oh, and staying out as late as we want!

 

I have such bad baby fever in general though, so following this thread for more ideas on how to suppress it!

Post # 10
Member
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I thought that working in an infant room in a child care center would help (7 screaming babies for 55 hours a week).

It didn’t. It actually made it worse.

So luckily, I only had to cope for a year!

Post # 11
Member
809 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

anytime I hear a baby scream in public and I’m glad it’s not mine. ;P that relentless sound is worse than a fire drill!

Post # 12
Member
7098 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Vaganus. That is all!

Post # 13
Member
8708 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’ve never had baby fever, since I’m pretty sure that the fact that I live around very young children has made my uterus go, “You know what? Lets not punish ourselves.” and closed down the shop.

So my advice is hang out around kids. Or hang out with a baby on an airplane, or in a grocery store, or literally anywhere. The shriek of a child makes me want to kick puppies.

Post # 14
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3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@HeartsandSparkles:  yep, this does it for me, though I still have baby fever.

Watching my friends become shitty husbands/fathers has been eye opening. I don’t say anything about it to them, but sometimes when one of them is chatting up a girl at a bar, I want to walk up and yell, “It’s 1am, why aren’t you home with your WIFE and BABY?!!!!” 

Post # 15
Member
724 posts
Busy bee

Spend a few minutes on a parenting board. Turns out… it’s kind of nice not having to worry about things like nipple confusion and ergonomic baby carriers.

Post # 16
Member
1327 posts
Bumble bee

Babysitting my cousins makes me want to get sterilized. 😛  Also, SO pointed out that we need to do lots of travelling in the next few years because once we have kids, it’ll be much harder to have vacations alone – and it’ll probably be a few years before we can, too.

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