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Mine was assigned with finding a caterer, which I ended up taking over. He sent out emails inquiry about catering but never followed up.
I made him look for an officiant and send me his top 3 for me to email them.
And, his main job is to select our readings.
We work together to make most of the major decisions. I wouldn't be worried that your FI hasn't worked on the music yet. We only signed a contract with our DJ a a few months ago for our July wedding.
right now his biggest task is to insure the engagement ring! after that maybe help select a caterer. I usually/seem to do all the legwork and then let him know what we are doing or give him our options and get his opinion on things.
Hes not really into any of the details or what anything looks like ! ha, fine by me. The only thing he really cares about is the music so i think he'll be more involved in finding a band.
Let's see...the only two things I've actually assigned him are food and calling the venue. Because of his work schedule he just hasn't called the venue and I finally compromised and said that I'd draw up a couple of different menus and he could tweak one to make it work. Also, he has to deal with all of his bridal party friends, because I don't feel comfortable talking to most of them.
sounds like most of us are doing the work. im ok with it though, as long as he doesn't nay-say! ;)
i am thinking about trying to give him more to do to get him more involved. not picking out doilies or anything, but stuff he'd be at least quasi-interested in....like ordering the booze and discussing menu options. :)
His biggest task is honeymoon planning!! I tend to obsess over planning things so I told him that I wanted him to plan the whole honeymoon, and I don't even want to hear about it. He's having a blast trying to keep it a surprise!
He's in charge of:
Music
Picking the menu
His travel arrangements
Honeymoon
Immigration
Moving me from Canada to the US
This way I can focus on all the little details while he handles the major ones!
He has been in charge of:
Selecting the venue. Coordinating all of the alcohol with the caterer and giving input on the menu. Helping choose the readings. Designing the groom's cake. Selecting gifts for the groomsmen. Choosing the little people for the top of the cake (he was absolutely INSISTENT that the cake have little people on it). Going dress shopping to a store I knew I would not buy from and telling me in general what he liked and did not like. Planning the honeymoon. Arranging for transportation.
He has been on the ball and on top of everything I have asked him to do.
We've been making most of the big decisions together, but I did put him in charge of the music....which has me worried because he never actually signed anything with the DJ he talked to and hasn't been able to get ahold of him lately (he's called, texted, emailed) and someone told us he moved to Maryland!
He does all the phone calls. :) I do a lot of pre-research and then give him a list of vendors to call. He picked our venues (after running it by me for the 'okay'), helped me pick our photog, just booked our DJ (out of a list of 10 local djs that I gave him from WeddingWire). Actually, he'll be in charge of everything having to do with the DJ (except a few Do Not Plays that I'll pass along). He just asked his guys and is on the hunt for the perfect suits. He's also the main contact for our friend who will be officiating.
I'd say he does 1/4th - 1/3rd of the planning. At least half the actual 'work' of it, while I do more brainstorming and bargain hunting.
SHOWING UP!
My caveman has it good, I took the reigns with this one. ;) He's appreciative of the work I've been doing, and I enjoy the freedom of making my own decisions.
I definitely have done 90% of the stuff, but I put him in charge of music (both piped & live), the mens attire, sound equipment & valet stuff. Most of the other stuff I ask for his opinion, but he could care less and tells me to just pick! :)
I think my (our) situation is the minority here: he does 60% of the legwork & research while I do 40%...but we make every decision together, including pros & cons + thinking outside of the box to get what we both can be happy with. We're each "project managers" for different big & small things...
He's in charge of:
I'm in charge of:
This has been GREAT practice for our marriage...don't know if I'll still have only 40% of the duties then, tho' 
he's in charge of music, tuxes, limo
we've shared the duties of venue hunting/picking and cake hunting/picking :)
He picked our band; is in charge of the reception entertainment (a flipbook station); groomsmen attire; and the honeymoon.
Seems like a lot of FIs are in charge of the music! For us, it's because I know next to nothing about music, and he has a much broader knowledge of songs/artists than I do.
@hilsy - oh, I just put J in charge of DJ because after the headache of booking a photog, DJ was next on the list and I couldn't deal with it. We had, uh, some issues booking a photog. It was kind of emotionally draining.
...but I'm one of those crazies who is hating having to plan this shindig ;)
My FI has had it soooo easy! He's only been along to a few meetings with vendors. And aside from that his only 'tasks' have been getting the addresses for his friends/family and getting a tux. He does have the role of buying gifts for the flower girl and ring bearer but he'll forget and I'll end up telling him when and where to buy something.
He's not in charge solely of much, we tag team most of it:
get shirt measurements for the guys and helping with the food.
The week our families are in town (we live at the beach and they are all coming in for a vacation too) he is in charge of planning events like fishing charters, cook outs, finding a house for his buddies.
I made our save the dates (and he gathered addresses). He wrote our wedding website story (made the ladies in his family cry!!) and he's finding add'l photographers right now and the recipe for the pig for the reception (we are having a pig pickin').
My husband wasn't in charge of much. We were both happy with it that way though :) I would make decisions and run them by him for approval so he felt like he was contributing. He, of course, wouldn't have missed the tastings though!
He was in charge of providing accommodations for his groomsmen the night before the wedding at his bachelor party and he made the reservation the night before!
Also, I went with him to order the groomsmen gifts, but he made the final decision on them and picked them up when they were ready.
He was also in charge of showing up. He was great at that job!
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Mine is in charge of music, toasting flutes (came in yesterday..gorgeous!--i did help him out by giving him 3 or 4 options and telling him to just buy one), and the cake server
what have you assigned? and is he completing the tasks?
he hasnt done anything on the music yet and its making me very nervous!!