- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I am ABSOLUTELY livid…
My FMIL has been spreading around to anybody who will listen that her son is marrying down, to trash, and that she wouldn’t be surprised if the marriage didn’t last 1 year. She has been encouraging FH’s family to NOT attend the wedding as it’s all just “one giant idiotic circus centered around a girl who refuses to grow up and only wants to wear a white dress and have all the attention focused on her.”
5 years ago, FH and I started dating and she was the BEST about it. Oh, how good was I for her son! OH, he actually is a nice person to be around now! How she ADORED me! 4 years ago, she introduced me to his grandmother as the Future Mrs. McGuffee (hence my name here!).
SCREEEEEEEEEEECH about 3 years ago, when he and I got into a fight about what was acceptable to lie about and what wasn’t. Christmas, birthday, and other presents/surprises are okay. Entire relationships (non sexual, in context…) with other women? NOT okay. She then sent me a message telling me how she always knew I was a selfcentered slut and would never be good enough for her son. She also told me that she was glad we had broken things off (we hadn’t, we just said we needed to talk about where our relationship was and where it was going face to face before continuing it) since I was nothing but trash beneath his feet, clinging to him hoping for a better life (because mine’s so rough…I have parents and siblings who love me and I’ve never spent one day at home in total fear…). I’m just draggin him down.
“Oh, wait, what? You guys worked it out? I’m sorry, I was just upset in the moment. You hurt my baby!”
Which I would have COMPLETELY accepted if she wouldn’t do THIS behind my back every freakin time we talk ever since that long ago day in 2010.
So here I am. FH is upset because his family won’t show up to the wedding, and he just doesn’t know why and I’m not going to volunteer that information to him because despite what she’s doing to us, she’s still his mother, and I won’t do that to him. I won’t.
I’m just so FRUSTRATED. EVERYTHING is my fault, according to her. He moved out of her house at twenty-frickin-one. It’s my fault, I poisoned him against her! He doesn’t come over that often. Same reasoning. He doesn’t go to his old church anymore. It’s my fault, because I’m not the same denomination! He didn’t do well in college ONE semester (we’ve been dating since HIGH SCHOOL…). It’s MY fault, because *I* kept DISTRACTING him from his studies…
I’m tired of it. I’m really tired of it. And I know going off on her won’t help because it’s only going to fuel her fire…but dangit, I just want to SLAP THE HECK OUT OF HER!