What the heck! surprised by bridesmaids

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well I agree they should be greatful for the shoes, hair, and makeup, they might not consider it an actual gift.  There are many people, myself included, who think that if you get something for your BMs and it’s for or to be worn at your wedding, then it’s not really a gift for your BMs – it’s really for you because it’s for your wedding vision.

I would cancel the hair and makeup appointments if you can and get them something different.


Post # 4
3633 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I tend to agree with PP. It’s great that you want to cough up money for hair and makeup, but it’s not really a gift. A spa day with massages would be a gift since it doesn’t benefit you in the end; getting their hair and makeup done for YOUR wedding is just a nice perk.

Post # 5
1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Pssh, I’d be delighted with that, personally. It is fun to get hair and makeup done professionally, and is something as a bridesmaid I never do myself (I’ll just do my own rather than spend the money), so if a bride were to cover those for me, I’d think it great fun. I know some people dislike the idea of the gift being related to the wedding, but I find that quite choosy, personally. And I think not being gracious to the bride about the gift, whatever it be, is quite rude.

In any event, perhaps for those who seemed disinterested, cancel their appointments and get them something else. They can do what they want with their hair and makeup, since apparently that’s not, to them, a worthwhile gift.

Post # 6
3217 posts
Sugar bee

As much as they were thoughtful gurstures, they were certainly not for the benefit of the BM’s. They were selected to fufill your vision of your wedding. 

Though, do think they should have at last behaved better, and said thank you, and basic common courtesy etc. 

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