Post # 1
Curious to see what people wish they had skimped or cut out at the wedding, or wish they had?
Stationary, chairs, flowers?
Trying to find things to reduce out of the wedding – we’ve already done electronic save the dates via Paperless Post (which I was really happy we did), debating doing a mix of online and printed invites, not doing favors, but trying to see what else people were happy they cut out or saved on!
Post # 2
Glad we didn’t have BMs, fancy hire cars for transport or extravagant chair hire. We also had simple (but hopefully elegant) home assembled invitations done by local printer and then DIY-ed.
wish we hadn’t spent so much on the cake. Our tray bakes were delicious but our ‘main’ cake would have been delightful if totally plain and simple with some fresh peonies on the top.
I had a stressy time with a China custom dress that didn’t work out and had to get an emergency dress with 2 weeks to go. So glad I got secondhand designer gown though. Would highly recommend this route (but in less of a panic!). Amazing gorgeous secondhand gowns to be had at a snip if you know what you’re looking for.
very glad we spent on photography and videography
we also splurged on entertainment for our guests (dj, singers, musicians, magicians). I can’t say we got to enjoy it as much as we hoped as bride and groom you get pulled in a million directions on the day but I am still glad as hopefully it made it a good event for our guests.
Our sweetie pick and mix also went down a storm (along with the ‘dancing shoes’ flip flops that got snapped up). All bits like this added up a lot but when it comes to comfort/food things for guests it’s worth the spend.
Post # 3
Oh and I forgot. We used a lot of very good faux flowers (from ebay – I ordered samples from various sellers to find the good ones). The friend doing our flowers mixed these i with tons of greenery and wholesale real peonies and roses. This kept flowers and decor costs very low compared to full fresh displays.
Post # 4
UK-bee : Thanks! Very helpful. I’m debating about the stationary, and about the cake. Also spending more money on photography + videography, so that’s good to know!
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter's Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Skipped favors – no regrets. Silk flowers which were perfect and stress free, simple cake, Vistaprint invitations, small bridal party, used DH’s car and an uncle’s car rather than fancy expensive cars. No regrets on any of those fronts either!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2017 - Earth
Day hasn’t yet arrived but so far glad we’ve cut flowers, transportation, favors, centerpieces, traditional dress and cake. Undecided on chairs between tolix, fruitwood and chiavari but making a decision Saturday. Invites are about $2 each which is reasonable to me, I don’t have the skill or patience for DIY. Don’t mind the costs for catering and equipment rentals (chairs, umbrellas, tables etc.,) since we’d like everyone to be comfortable and definitely felt food and drinks were high priority. Photography is cheap for this area bc its a Sunday wedding but that was low on the priority list. FI wants a DJ and its a close friend so no official charge, I would have been happy with a playlist. 😊 But the DJ will only be playing songs from our list so I’m happy.
Post # 7
christina82 : I had a very small wedding with only our closest friends and family, and made it domestic destination, which cut our guest list in half. No regrets. Our day was perfect! I also DIY’d our decor using fake flowers with our center pieces center pieces. Again, no regrets.
Post # 8
UK-bee : what’s a sweetie pick?
I’m planning on doing the flip flops… for 130 guests (assuming 1/2 women) how many should I provide?
Post # 9
honeyBee17 : sweetie pick and mix is jars and bowls of all different sweets and guests scoop what they want into little paper bags. If you are in the USA then maybe you’d call it a candy table or something like that?
Post # 10
No bridal party, no transport, no ribbons/runners/table decorations, no band. No big wedding at all, just a small destination wedding (12 guests) then a party back home for everyone which works out much cheaper all around.
Post # 11
Invites and thank you cards from VistaPrint, paper origami bouquet, no decorations allowed in the chapel because it was THAT beautiful on its own, no photographer, asked close friends to use their phones to take pictures, had reception at a restaurant that already had decorations that I loved. The WHOLE wedding cost $3,700, not including my dress and his tux, which we splurged on. Guest list of 31.
Post # 12
I was happy we went really minimal on flowers and didn’t get arrangements for the welcome table or escort card table. Guests spent so little time at those tables that it seems like it would have been a waste. We also didn’t do any boutonierres or flowers for parents/grandparents. I really wanted a signature cocktail at the time but I’m glad I skipped that too since the bar experience really wouldn’t have been that different in the end! We also decided not to have anything for guests to throw at the ceremony and we didn’t do any kind of exit after the wedding (so no car or sparklers or anything since we were staying on-site).
Overall I tried really hard not to have anything extraneous. I’d say maybe the ceremony programs were unecessary but at the same time I am happy to have them as keepsakes and was glad to be able to share the details of the readings, etc, since my husband and I spent so much time selecting each detail of our ceremon6, so I could still go either way there. Anyway, happy planning!
Post # 13
Wedding in 3 weeks and so far have regretted (apart from the whole thing and wishing we were just going to the courthouse now):
– really nice $ invitations, i had my heart set on these particular invitations but really they are going in the bin in the end.
– DJ- wishing we didn’t book a DJ and just used an ipod
Post # 14
We did not pay for transportation, did not have favors, and did not rent special chairs or linens. I was very happy with all of these decisions! However, we splurged on our venue, so they had gorgeous chairs and linens for us to use at no additional cost. I also bought $15 shoes… no one noticed, as my wedding dress was floor-length! I would never buy expensive wedding shoes. I went “cheap” on my florist, and that is my largest regret as far as wedding details go. She did a terrible job on my bouquet, BM bouquets, and corsages/bouttineres. I would have paid triple to cost to have nice flowers for everyone. We splurged on an open bar for our guests all evening. Everyone had a great time and my father (who paid for the wedding) felt this was the right thing to do. I wish we had paid for a videographer.
Post # 15
We didn’t do flower centerpieces, just for the bridal party. We did a two tier cake and cupcakes instead of a giant cake. We did inexpensive invitations from shutterfly and didn’t do any save the dates. We didn’t skimp on the photographer, but found an awesome one for a great price. My best advice? Bargain hunt. We had a beautiful wedding that, done the way most ladies do it, would have been twice the price. The national average is $28,000 I think…ours was just over $13,000. And we had 140-150 guests.