What Things (small or big) Have Caused (or nearly caused) a Bridal MELTDOWN

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6028 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

My venue was court ordered to be sold. We didn’t know if the buyer wuld knock it down, restore, honor existing contracts, nothing. We were in the dark for a couple months. Panic mode set it. I even planned out the entire wedding with a rental company in case we needed to move itto my family farm.

Oh, and my florist completely flaked. I had to fire him and find a whole new one. I love my new florist so it worked out great.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@inky_1:  Sorry to hear about your topper, is the etsy seller going to replace it for you?  I hope you’re able to get your topper.  The only thing that made me nervous about my wedding was the cost.  I spent the first month doing various spreadsheets for my budget and it really drove me crazy.  In the end it was totally worth it though.

Post # 6
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11740 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I sent my flower girl’s mother a schedule a few weeks before the wedding, that had the flower girl meeting us at the venue before the ceremony, instead of doing pre-pictures with us.  The FG is horribly misbehaved, and I thought she’d get bored.  Apparently, her mom had made all these arrangements (FG’s dad rented a car so he could drive around for the photos with us and make sure she behaved, or in case she had to go to the bathroom or something), but never told me.  She then called me bridezilla and a slew of other nasty things, told me how she went out of her way to accomodate me (she picked out the dress and bullied me into accepting it since it was only $10 on ebay, and not at all what I wanted).  I told her I couldn’t read her mind, and sent a snarky response back while I broke out in hives. I almost told her to not even come (and not bring her daughter) based on her horrific behavior.

Post # 7
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8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

When my fiance told me he wants to do custom vows. I completely FLIPPED. I had never in my life planned on writing my own vows. But he hasnt had much say in the wedding stuff, and it means a lot to him, so I agreed. After an argument and needless crying. A lot of crying.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@IzzyBear:  Did you have a contract with the florist? If so, how did they flake?  I am just curious because of course these are my nightmares!!

Post # 9
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8426 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@inky_1:  Good luck!  Hopefully it will turn up, maybe  just a little later than expected.

Post # 10
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I’ve had two Zilla moments so far.

#1 – A few weeks ago my car just stopped running while I was sitting at a red light.  I had it towed to the dealership and it took them almost a week to figure out what was wrong with it and fix it.  The entire time I was freaking out that it was going to be something super expensive (i.e. blown head gasket which costs over $2000 to repair) and all of our savings is earmarked for wedding expenses.  Cue the tears and depression until they figured out it was most likely an air bubble in the oil line caused by being low on oil which was caused by a leak in my oil pan seal.  Repairs only ended up being $300.

#2 – To make a long story short this past Sunday night I realized I had an infection and needed treatment ASAP to avoid being in pain.  Thankfully the medication is sold over the counter at the drug store so I just went and picked it up at 11PM.  I was already stressed with wedding planning and when I started worrying that the infection wouldn’t get cured in time for the wedding or I would end up getting reinfected before the wedding.  I totally psyched myself into an anxiety attack that lasted on and off for two days.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

The only thing that brought me close to a melt down (but not to an actual meltdown)was finding 2 hours with my then FI to scan our registry at The Bay, only to discover NOTHING was added to it and we’d have to find time to go back and do it all over. We only got around to registering a month before our wedding, and finding time together was hard with everything we had on the go.  When the registry clerk asked me “Do you remember what you scanned? I can go through and add it for you.” I almost reached through the phone and choked her. Yes lady, grab a pen and a piece of paper and I’ll start rattling off UPC codes and quantities for you.

But other than that, which was frustrating at a point when time was at a premium and we’d just wasted 2 hours for nothing, I can’t say I had anything that upset me much. I’m pretty laid back anyway. A “what will be, will be” kind of person, if you will.  My mother had far more meltdowns in the 3 days before the at-home reception she hosted for 30 people for us than I did. I’m grateful that I’m not high strung like that.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

I had an internal breakdown about 5 minutes before our rehearsal started. My wedding planner was also my cousin, who was flying in from out of state with my aunt and uncle. She and I had gone back and forth via email and FB for months leading up to the wedding, organizing the details and literally handing over the reigns to her as soon as her plane touched down. All of the vendors had her cell number, all of the clean up/set up crew was looking for her and guess who didn’t show up? Yep, you guessed it.

My mom walked up to me in front of everyone and said ” don’t freak out, but your cousin isn’t coming”– and since everyone was staring at me, I just kind of smiled and broke out in hives lol. It went away ( thank goodness) but OMG– talk about rallying the troops last minute. A lot of cutesy details got pushed to the back burner and I had to reorganize a lot of stuff last minute.

Post # 13
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6028 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Andthepupmakes3:  well he was supposed to send me a contract and never did. I had already paid him the deposit though. He flaked by not showing up to our appointment and not calling or texting me to tell me he couldn’t make it and he kept canceling/rescheduling appointments. I had also heard (he’s a family friend so I hear all the gossip) that he wasn’t showing up for events. I no longer felt confident with him and asked him for my deposit back. He really couldn’t say no because there was nothing stating that it wasn’t refundable because he never sent me a contract.

Post # 14
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634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

…when the ceremony space called me on the friday evening (we were leaving for our DW early monday morning and participating in a friend’s wedding that night/all saturday) to tell me that they hadn’t recieved my cheque and they didn’t know if they could hold the space (it was lost in the mail even though I sent it in the most expensive way, and they called after there was any chance that I could get to a bank or to the post office or anything)

…when my dress didn’t fit 5 days before the wedding (it never actually fit the way it should have)

…when the spa I was getting my wedding manicure at thought I was just getting a polish change instead of shellac french and didn’t think that they had time to do it (it was the only time that I could do it before our DW and I had booked the appt weeks ago)

 


The previous things all happened back to back on the same day, I came home walked in the door and full-on bawled like a baby while my poor DH tried to consol me while also getting ready to go to our friends’ rehersal



…when I couldn’t find a veil anywhere in my city and it was too late to order (WB saved me here! Thank you classified section!!)

…when I found out everyone was planning on wearing orange (we only had 7 girls and I hate orange plus it really clashed with my blush bouquet)… I ended up changing my flowers and my mom changed her dress and it all looked good in the end… this may have been my biggest bridezilla moment

…when I came back from Europe 10 lbs heavier (with only 10 days until I left for my wedding)

…when the restaurant called me the night before our wedding to tell me that they had given the private room I booked to another party and would be moving me into a room that I had never even seen (I had spent days pouring over my restaurant options and the room decor/view was a big part of the decision)… it turned out to be a nicer room, thank god!

…when the night before my wedding (like 11pm after the rehearsal dinner) I started steaming my dress and noticed that the seamstress had done a bad job sewing the very intricate beaded belt back on my dress and there was a giant (like 1 inch) gap!!! Thankfully I packed a sewing kit and my mom re-stiched it on me while I was getting ready.

…now, when San Francisco City Hall is telling me that it is going to be November before I can get my marriage license. I got married in August!!! grr!

 

I feel like in the week leading up to my wedding the wheels completely fell off and everything that I had meticulously planned and worked on just went bottoms up. But it all turned out ok in the end and I’m sure in 30 years I will laugh about it. Especially since one of the reasons that we did a small DW is because we didn’t want all the stress that comes along with typical wedding… boy was I wrong about that!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

-We had to postpone the wedding by 6 months back in last June. I had already booked a bunch of vendors and always wanted to be a spring bride. Oh well.

 

 

 

-We had to postpone our honeymoon by like 7 months this past August. It wasn’t the honeymoon part that upset me, it was that I’ve been carefully saving up my vacation days all year and just need a break. This was resolved by the FI whisking me away for 3 days on a premarital mini-moon.

 

 

 

-People not RSVPing. 50% of our guests didn’t have the courtesy to RSVP, so when their entrees aren’t right, THEY WILL EAT WHATEVER I’M EFFIN SERVING THEM AND THEY WILL LOVE IT AND THEY WILL THANK ME AND THEY WILL PRAISE THE LORD BABY JESUS I’M NOT MAKING THEM SIT STARVING AT A TABLE WITH A SIGN AROUND THEIR NECK THAT SAYS “I CAN’T BE BOTHERED TO DROP AN ENVELOPE IN A MAILBOX BECAUSE I’M A LAZY IDIOT”.

 

 

 

-MOH texted me 3 days ago that she picked up the $300 dress I bought her from the laundermat (??!!) where she did her alterations and it was all messed up. I was just like, I have asked for nothing but you showing up in a dress that fits on the wedding day. I am paying for a hotel room for you and your bf, your makeup and hair, and getting you a gift. GET THE EFFIN DRESS FIXED OR YOURE NOT WALKING DOWN THE AISLE.

 

 

 

Post # 16
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661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Our caterer would NOT respond to my emails for months leading up to the wedding…

We hired DH’s high school FFA group to cater our 150+ reception… DH kept telling me that they must just be busy and not to worry about it… Umm hello! If they fall through there’s no way I can arrange for last minute food in our budget! UGH! I lost my sh*t on that one for sure! Turned out just fine, actually much better than I thought it would… We had a full crew of professionally dressed high school students (coat check, drink station, bounce house babysitter, etc) and amazing food… 

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