What time should we list on the wedding invitation?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What time should we list on the wedding invitation?
    Ceremony start time : (8 votes)
    32 %
    Boat pick-up time : (10 votes)
    40 %
    Other : (7 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 2
    2264 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Swoo:  For the invitation, you list the ceremony start time.

    If you have an accommodations card, that is where you should direct your guests to your website where they can find more information on accomodations and boat transportation. 

    Post # 3
    187 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: mountain venue

    I would list both times and specify. but i dont know what is better format wise so BUMP

    Post # 4
    42166 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Swoo:  On the invitation I would put the actual start time of the ceremony. I do agree with the pp however, that it is important that you include an insert that explains the boat situation.

    Post # 5
    913 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

    I would definitely put both on the invitation.

    Post # 6
    2565 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I would put both.  Put the ceremony time, as well as the time the boat will be leaving.  Since people will miss the ceremony if they miss the boat, I wouldn’t just rely on people going to the website to find the boat time.

    Post # 7
    7936 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I also have questions about this. In live event/concert production you put the start time as X when in reality the start time is X:15. But obviously a wedding is not a concert…

    Do you actually start at the listed start time and expect guests to have enough respect to show up a bit early?

    Post # 8
    3084 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I would think the boat time? Wouldn’t they miss the ceremony if they don’t make the boat.

    Post # 9
    361 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Swoo:  I’m your one vote for boat pick-up time!  Instead of saying, ceremony starts at . . . , I would say, the boat will leave for the ceremony at . . . . The ceremony time doesn’t even matter, since your guests MUST board the boat to make it there.  

    If you don’t care for that suggestion, though, maybe you could do what we did.  We had a morning ceremony, so we wrote, ceremony starts at . . . , <next line> coffee is served at . . . . People got the hint.

    Post # 10
    2800 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would say the boat leave time as well.  Invites in my mind cover the time I need to be at the event by.  In this case, I need to be at the event by the time the boat leaves.    I also wouldn’t rely on everyone keeping the insert from the invite.  I know right before my wedding several people requested information because they had misplaced the actual invitation. 


    Post # 11
    1532 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Ooo – That’s a tricky one. I believe your invitation should state the ceremony time.

    I think this is the type of thing that deserves an insert. A seprate item that the guest will have to touch which will hopefully help them notice it. (There will still be far too many people that totally ignore it.) Don’t leave it just to the website to explain. You can also announce it at the rehearsal dinner and let the people at the hotel desk know in case people ask them.

    Oh – you could design it like a ticket! That would be cute and maybe people will think they need to hold on to it! lol

    Post # 12
    1532 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Just know that whatever you do, half your wedding guests will manage to entirely miss critical pieces of information.

    I had a woman, who had already RSVP’d yes to the wedding, call my mother about 2 weeks before the wedding to chit chat about what to wear and ‘so excited’ and such who had NO IDEA that my wedding was on a Friday. I spelled out the word FRIDAY in large font on both the Save the Date and the Invitation. OMG. Wedding guests be crazy.

    Post # 13
    598 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015 - Dreams Las Mareas - Costa Rica

    aekc:  +1 

    No separate insert that they may not read

    Boat leaving to ceremony boards at 5:45 and sails at 6:00.. Ceremony @ 6:15 that way they know…

    maybe u can have little mimosas/ lemonade or something on the boat for the people as they arrive


    Post # 14
    1769 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    You need to list both.  If you only list the boat time on the invite, many ppl will think that’s the ceremony time and they’ll be anxious to get on the boat much earlier than necessary/planned.  If you only list the ceremony time, some ppl won’t realize that there’s an earlier boat time.  Listing both times on the invitation (not just website or inserts) seems like the only way to avoid any serious problems.

    Post # 15
    613 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Hmmm I agree with PP to write both boat time and ceremony start time just to be safe because not everyone will go to your website. Does the ceremony start soon after the boat arrives to the Island?

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