What to bring to a Funeral?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

How about a card and order flowers to be sent to the family?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Generally people don’t bring anything. You could order flowers to be delivered to the funeral home or send sympathy cards to DH’s parents and aunts/uncles. If you have photos of his grandfather, I’m sure people would enjoy seeing them. When my grandfather passed this year my DH was incredibly supportive simply by being there, talking with family and especially when he offered to get some water or coffee for me and my family during the wake. The wake was especially difficult greeting so many sad visitors.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Stop by and get party platters for the get together so no one has to cook? And possibly like breakfast stuff for the next day when everyone is still there.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

I would say just offer to help set up the wake, help prepare the food, offer people drinks just be on hand to do those things as support to your in laws. I really don’t think you need to bring anything but if you wanted to arrange flowers maybe. I think your DH’s family will appriciate you being there helping out, hanging coats, doing drinks etc to help take some stess off. That is a good gift to give. Sorry to hear about your and your DH’s loss.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@KateByDesign:  Generally people don’t bring anything to the actual funeral, but I think that since you are going to be spending the night at the family’s home, you could bring some food. It is pretty common to bring a casserole, or cupcakes/cake, or whatever you want to cook to bring to the family and possibly serve at the gathering. If you don’t feel that is enough, bring a floral arrangement and a nice card.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Would a hamper work? Some nice coffee, tea, some yummy treats like cookies and cakes. Stuff for you and family to share. Some vouchers for food. I doubt people will feel like cooking. Another idea would be a Rose plant that can be planted in honour of your DH’s Grandfather. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

@KateByDesign:  I would get a card for the family, and also order flowers/a wreath.

I personally don’t think it’s appropriate to bring anything else.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I would recommend bringing food for the gathering after the funeral. One or two items in a catering portion from a restaurant or take out place would be good.

 

I’m Italian, and in our family this is what everyone does who wants to give something to the family. You could feed 100+ ppl at the gatherings after a funeral, it’s always crazy how much food is brought or delivered. Everyone knows my father, so once the restaurants find out what the orders are for they send even MORE food. We’ll start getting stuff w/o even anybody’s name attached as to who it’s from! It gets crazy, but it’s actually extremely nice and needed.

 

Sorry for your loss!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I would recommend bringing food for the gathering after the funeral. One or two items in a catering portion from a restaurant or take out place would be good.

 

I’m Italian, and in our family this is what everyone does who wants to give something to the family. You could feed 100+ ppl at the gatherings after a funeral, it’s always crazy how much food is brought or delivered. Everyone knows my father, so once the restaurants find out what the orders are for they send even MORE food. We’ll start getting stuff w/o even anybody’s name attached as to who it’s from! It gets crazy, but it’s actually extremely nice and needed.

 

Sorry for your loss!

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would order a floral arrangement but that’s about it.  Having been through multiple funerals, the last thing I would have wanted to deal with afterwards was stuff that people may have brought.  We wanted to get home and just be together as a family.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would recommend food or drinks or just plain helping out. I know many people have said floral arrangements, but I know for my grandpa’s funeral, we said to not sent flowers and to instead donate that money to the ACS.

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