What to call a Bridemaid that isn't your maid of honor?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ayirk723:  if your current MOH married?  If so you can have a matron and a maid.  My sister is my MOH  but won’t be doing any traditional MOHish things – my friend/BM will be doing a lot of the supporting the bride stuff (and running intereference for me day of so I don’t know anything that goes wrong).

Call her your Junior MOH?  Or she’s just a BM, I don’t think she needs a special title.  I have 2 sisters, one is MOH, one’s a BM just like the other 2, she’ll just be second in line at the front.

Post # 4
2051 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You only have 2 bridesmaids and one maid of honour. How can they be “just another bridesmaid” if there are only two of them? Why do you need to give each of them a different title – isn’t the title of “bridesmaid” enough?

Sorry, but I just don’t understand the issue. I have 6 bridesmaids and all of them are thrilled to be “just another bridesmaid”. Being a bridesmaid IS a special title/role.

Post # 5
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

All this wedding party title stuff is silly. Being asked to stand up next to the bride and groom during their ceremony is a honor. No need to call your attendants anything fancy smancy. Besides hold the bouquet during the service what other MOH duties are there? Everything is optional from my understanding anyway.  Heck if your MOH didn’t want to hold the bouquet you could place it on a side table .


Post # 6
502 posts
Busy bee

If you have three bridesmaids, and you’re going out of your way to make two of them feel more special than ‘just’ being a bridesmaid, how is the third one going to feel? And to paraphrase, in a world where everyone is special, no one is. (was that from The Incredibles? Ha.) 

Post # 7
3514 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@ayirk723:  My sister is a junior bridesmaid but I’m having her wear the same color dress as the MOH because she’s my little angel I have to have her feel special. She’s my “lucky charm”

Post # 9
10906 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

She already has a unique and special role among your bridal party: She is your sister. 🙂

Post # 10
7240 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You are way overthinking this. She’s a bridesmaid, the end. 

Post # 11
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014


My SIL did something similar. She didn’t have a MOH, she had 3 BMs. Two of them (her BF and my cousin) were in red, and then her little sister was in a little miniature version of my SIL’s wedding dress. Not an exact copy of her dress, but you get what I mean. Smile

Post # 12
1625 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ayirk723:  since your sister is the one who didnt want to be MOH, I think its fine to call her a bridesmaid and leave it at that. Because that’s what she is.

Post # 13
22125 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

One of my friends wanted to give her little sister a special title and called her a “maiden of honor.” I thought that was cute.

Post # 15
265 posts
Helper bee

I think bridesmaid is special enough for your other bridesmaid and I think “maiden of honor” like @gemstone had suggested is so cute for your sister 

Post # 16
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

If she doesn’t want the duties anyway, she will be happy with the title of bridesmaid.

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