- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Ok ladies, maybe some of you can help me figure out how to stay calm..
A little back story first. My Fiance has know this girl for a few years from college. She’s Lesbian (yes this is relevant!). She’s got a girlfriend, but I keep getting these weird vibes like maybe she’s Bisexual, because it seems like she’s really into the Fiance. Case in point…when Fiance was coming home from deployment she posted on his Facebook “I want to see you as soon as you get to the states! Come to NY NOW!” He responded something along the lines of “My lovely fiance comes first.” No response back. Fast forward to about a month ago. Fiance and I had mutually decided that neither of us was going out the Friday before the wedding. We have rehersal (this is tomorrow now btw!!!) and rehersal dinner. Plus we want to take it easy. Apparently she called him up and was trying to guilt trip him into seeing her tomorrow night because “She’s spending $1000 to come to this wedding and she would like to get drunk with him/see him other than just at the wedding.” My Fiance told her that he’s not doing anything that night and if she wanted to hang out she should have come down earlier.
Apparently since then he hasn’t talked to her much, but she keeps bringing up the whole Friday thing. My bridesmaids know about her and have told me to watch out for her because it seems like she likes him more than just a friend. My concern is…she’s trying to guilt trip him. He’s such a nice guy that he lets people walk all over him. I’ve made my “dislike” of her behaviour known to my Fiance and have told him to just hand the phone to me if she starts that stuff tomorrow when she gets into town. My only problem is, I could get pissed easily. I may end up telling her not to even come to the wedding if she tries to pull anything. I’ve had dreams about this girl. Like, Fiance and I are going to all the tables at the reception saying thanks for coming and she would say something along the lines of “I’m mad at you for not hanging out with me Friday” and I would rip her a new one and tell her to get the beep out.
What would you ladies do in a situation like this? Would you just let it go or would you tell the girl not to come if she’s going to act like this?