Post # 1
Well, I have been lurking for a while now and I just wanted to know what other Bee’s opinions on the subject. My fiance and I didn’t have a “extravigant” proposal, we basically had a conversation and decided to get married. Ring is on layaway (making payments) I got laid off in May and he doesn’t really have a great paying job (8.50/hr) but he at least he has a job right? Anywho… needless to say we wanted to do the courthouse thing due to major lack of money but MY family keeps insisting that we atleast have a “small wedding” (he really only has his mom, the rest of his mom’s side of family disowned them because he is mixed and turned out his dad had a whole other family his mom didn’t know about until she told him she was pregnant. So I guess my question is what would someone do in this situation and any and ALL suggestions/opinions are appreciated. Also, We chose March 17th 2012 as the date but just realized that is will be St. Patty’s day as well, lol…. don’t know if I want to have it on a holiday….
Post # 3
I understand them wanting a wedding for you, but I also understand having no money for it. Are they willing to pay for it? There have been some bees that have had some beautiful backyard weddings with just a few people. They were every bit as stunning as some of the expensive ones. So it is possible to have a beautiful wedding with just a little bit of money.
Post # 4
Congratulations!! Do what makes y’all happy. That’s what I would do. I think your family should understand and support you in whatever decision you make. I know several people who have gone to the courthouse, including my own parents! Maybe a compromise or something, like a wedding you guys want and a small gathering of family and/or friends to celebrate.
Post # 5
Option 1 – Do the courthouse thing because that is what you want. Other family members can attend if they want. Then, afterwards your family can throw you a reception, maybe at a relative’s home, party room at an apartment building someone lives in, or maybe a community center at their expense because that is what they want.
Option 2 – Have the wedding and reception in one of the above mentioned locations, again, at their expense. It may cost a little more (or maybe it is comparable) because you will have to pay the officiant to come to the location.