Post # 1
I am a 44 y/o second time bride my FI is in his early 50’s and also been previously married. We are going to have a family wedding with our children standing up with us. I am not sure about who to have walk me down the aisle. I thought about having both my kids but my daughter thinks my dad should again. My son will just do whatever we want cause that’s how he rolls LOL. I think we will have our kids my son/daughter, his son/daughter walk down the aisle together then when we leave have my son/his daughter etc. walk out together. BUT, I just can’t decide what to do with myself LOL. HELP.
Also, we are NOT sending out S-T-D cards and I am not sure when to send out the invitations. My mom said a month before it that right?
Post # 3
I would send your invitations out at least 6 weeks in advance. As far as walking down the aisle that is totally up to you – I think it would be sweet to have your father walk you down the aisle again. Have you talked to him about it?
Post # 4
I would go with 6-8 weeks prior for your invites – depending on when you need final numbers for your caterer/venue.
I’ve had brides walk themselves down, meet the groom who has been waiting at the end of the rows of chairs (so usually halfway or so) and go down together, or use whatever escort they did before.
I had my stepdad escort me down the aisle for both my weddings. I wasn’t sure how I felt about it, but it was great. At his request we also did another father/daughter dance though I let him choose the song since he complained about the last one so much 😉
Post # 5
I would ask the kids first. When my mom remarried it was really hard for my brothers, sister and I. I was thankful to not be included. I didn’t say any of that to my mom but thankfully she realized it herself. Even us adults can feel like we are disrespecting our other parent. I’m not saying this is the case but wanted to give you a heads up. Hopefully it will be exactly as you hope it to be. If it’s not please know it won’t mean they don’t want you to be happy or don’t love you it’s just something they may feel.
Post # 6
Thank you so much for the insight from a child’s perspective. I will keep that in mind as we move forward.
Post # 7
Thank you all for the words of advice.
Post # 8
I am walking alone. My Dad already “gave me away” and my kids are never getting rid of me lol Figure I am my own woman now and can go it alone. oh and yep 6 to 8 weeks before the wedding is typical invite time.
Post # 9
@Jennawesbren: You know over the weekend, my thoughts have turned that same direction, I am an independent woman, I have been on my own for a lot of years now and stand pretty darn strong on my own two feet if I say so myself LOL.
Post # 10
I’m an older bride also and will walk down myself. Half-way down the aisle, my hubby-to-be will walk towards me and then we will walk down together. The kids will walk down with FI at beginning of ceremony. We will do a sand in glass ceremony to celebrate the blending of the two families. However you do it, it will be fine. Just enjoy!
I thinking sending your invited 3 months in advance because folks may need to take vacation or need a day off from work. Waiting a month before may mean some of your friends are not attending and you really want everyone to celebrate your day. You don’t need save the dates, but you can do an email announcement with a photo saying that “formal invitation to follow.”
Post # 11
My dad walked me down the aisle my first marriage. My two sons will walk me down the aisle this time. I still wanted to my dad to have an important role though, so he got ordained online is going to officiate.