Post # 1
So I was out this weekend with my FH, playing pool, and just having a good ‘ol time. His brother (he’s also his best man) came up to hang out. We were just sitting there, and his brother said to me, “You know you guys are getting married on my son’s birthday. We’re going to have to do really special for him”. He was kind of implying to do something special for him at the wedding, but I have no idea what that is. The wedding is kind of formal, and many people probably won’t bring their young kids because part of the reception is around a pool. I want to be nice and everything, but I don’t want to turn the wedding into a birthday party..
Post # 3
How old is the kid? Maybe you could do an extra little birthday cake or something…?
Post # 4
We had our wedding just a day or two away from my husband’s parent’s anniversary. We decided to honor them by making an announcement and playing their wedding song. They danced and were so thrilled to have their special day recognized. It didn’t take away from Our day at all and it was nice to help make someone else feel special.
I think it might be nice to just make an announcement of his B-Day and maybe have everyone join in in song. Then maybe have a small cake with candles for him to blow out. It will still be YOUR big day, but you’ll also be able to make a little guy happy. I don’t think it takes much to make someone feel special. Its the little things.
Post # 5
What about after you guys leave, if the family stays for a little while and has cake for his son?
That’s kind of tough, because it could get “birthday party” kinda fast.
Post # 6
Wow. That takes a lot of nerve to make a comment like that! It’s your wedding not the kid’s birthday party! Maybe ask your bakery for an extra cupcake for him and stick and candle in it or something, but I wouldn’t make a charade out of the whole thing.
Post # 7
He’s turning 14. I had mentioned doing a birthday cake to my fiance, but I don’t think he likes the idea too much. I also suggested having him go golfing with all the guys the morning of, but I guess he doesn’t golf, so he’ll just sit in the cart.
Post # 8
Um…14 year old boys don’t usually LIKE attention like that. Why doesn’t he just postpone celebrating it until the next day?? He’ll have birthdays for the rest of his life, you only get ONE wedding day! It’s not like an anniversary party or something! I’d tell Fiance to tell his brother that’s NOT happening…
Post # 9
14?! OMG, I thought you were talking about a small child that would throw a tantrum if his bday wasn’t recognized.
Uh, tell your Future Brother-In-Law it’s not happening. He can celebrate the day before or after.
Post # 10
Can you give a quick “shout out” to him while giving a thank you speech or something like that?
Post # 11
Even if you did something for his birthday, I think it’ll be pretty clear that it’s still a wedding, based on the beautiful woman parading around in the fancy white dress, not to mention all the wedding related decorations and stuff.
It would come across as extremely gracious and thoughtful if you guys acknowledged his birthday. A small/personal cake, or special cupcake with a candle in it, along with a chorus of “Happy Birthday” would take up at most 5 minutes of your wedding day. Your nephew would feel special that he was acknowledged, your Future Brother-In-Law would be grateful that you did that (or at least he should be!), and your guests would think it extra sweet of you guys to do that. And then, it’d be right back to the wedding festivities.
As for when to do it, perhaps later on in the evening. Personally, I’d schedule it for after the cake cutting. While everyone is waiting for the caked to be sliced and served, whip out a little cupcake or something for him, and make an announcement. Say something like “We’re honored to have our nephew, Timmy, here with us today on his 14th birthday! We’d love it if all of our wedding guests would join in on singing ‘Happy Birthday’ to him!”
I’ve actually been to a couple of weddings where this has been done, and it’s always turned out great. (And once it’s over, people went right back to wedding-mode).
Post # 12
I like the idea of a quick mention in a speech, or to do something during the rehersal dinner. My Bridesmaid or Best Man is turning 30 the day before my wedding, so I’d like to celebrate that after the rehersal dinner, with a cake and stuff.
Post # 13
I have to agree with MightySapphire… if I was 14 and at a wedding I would be absolutely moritified to have everyone singing happy birthday to me. I would probably not do anything for his birthday. Maybe a candle in a cupcake but I wouldn’t make an announcement for everyone to hear….
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Cupcake with a candle, sing happy birthday at some later point in the evening, and that’s enough. Done.
Post # 16
14?! Having a cake or saying something would probably be embarassing, not sweet and endearing. Get him a present – something he’d really like.