Post # 1
So my hubby doesn’t have a middle name and neither does his sister, perhaps a Lebanese thing, I am not sure? He wants to name a boy after his uncle and his dad 2 names together: JonPierre with no middle name. I think he should probably have a middle name but hubby seems pretty adamant. I stated my reasoning like government forms, identity theft, ok ya that’s kinda weak huh?
Anyone else have any other ideas as to why they’re necessary/beneficial? Kinda even considering sneaking it in on the birth certificate figuring hubby will just be so blissful he won’t be mad!!! lol, Terrible?
Post # 3
So many good names, so few kids to give them to 😉
Post # 4
DG: OMG that’s totally it! We are only having this one and I had a name I loved that will work as a middle but he’s had his heart set since he was a teen when his uncle died. What could I say, not that I hate JonPierre it’s grown on me. Sneak it in??
Post # 5
Travelling. It’s good to have more than one name on your passport.
Customs/Border Protection usually targets people before they even get inside a country; and if someone who has the same name as you is flagged, you can have difficulty going across borders.
I know for a fact it happens.
Now, with a middle name, the chance of having someone having the exact same combination of names is reduced.
It will make your kid’s life easier.
Post # 6
I think you should use the “marriage compromise” card. He got to pick the first name, you should get to pick the middle name. You’ve both had your hearts set on names, he should compromise and let you put yours in as a middle! If it’s important to you it should be important to him, period!
Post # 7
You can also play the cultural tradition card, and say, “Well, in my cultural tradition, we give middle names… And I really have my heart set on one!”
Maybe that will work?
Post # 8
I agree with Mrs. DG—if he gets the first name he wants then you should certainly get the middle name you want. 🙂
Post # 9
I like Mighty‘s suggestion. It’s what we did. If the hubby picked the first name (which he did), I get to pick the middle name and vice versa. It’s about compromise IMHO.
Post # 10
I don’t see why NOT to have a middle name! Why would he be against it??
Here is an argument: I didn’t have one and while I never had any border/customs issues of any sort, I wish I had a middle name. I have given my parents endless guilt trips about how they gave one to my brother and not me 🙂 so maybe just suggest that it would be nice for your son to have a middle name for when people ask – otherwise it is just kind of annyoing to always say you don’t have one and explain why. I have other friends who didn’t have middle names and one was so unhappy about it her parents “gifted” her one for her 16th birthday!
Post # 11
EGB is right, there are sooo many legal advantages. It’s soo confusing otherwise. My fiance has a middle name, but his dad doesn’t, and they have the same first name. They already get all their legal documents mixed up – like when he checked his credit report, it sent him his dad’s. If his dad had had a middle name, that would have been so less likely.
And same with the likelihood of someone else having the same name.
Another instance, my brother- even though he has a first, middle and last name – when he went to college, there ended up being someone who had the EXACT same name as him. Well this kid had a bunch of school payments that were late, and my brother kept getting his bills. Then there was another guy in his city that had his same name, and he had committed a crime, and it got put on my brother’s credit report! ha.
I say reduce the risks by giving your son a middle name. Plus, I would be sad without a middle name, I think your son would want one too.
I agree, pull the marriage card- you chose the name and I wasn’t initially fond of, let me have this one thing. It’s not like we’ll be calling him by his middle name 😛
Post # 12
Lebanese have such a french influence and I am surprised that there are no middle names. The French usually have 2 middle names. Maybe a cultural angle will work better.
Anyway he chose the first name and you can choose the middle name… or two. 🙂
Post # 13
Bees, you’ve given me more ammo and very good arguments to go back to hubby with. The traveling/customs thing could be pretty important considering we have a Lebanese last name and travel restrictions these days. Will definitely need to go back to DH with that one. Thanks again!
Post # 14
Yeah, I’m not sure why he would be so against it… especially since he gets to choose the first name. Just be kind and patient, and I’m sure you two can work things out!