(Closed) Too many co-workers–who do I invite??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Honestly you’re not even required to invite your bosses.  Invite the people you are close to.  Just make sure they understand that not everyone is invited, so you’d appreciate if they wouldn’t mention the wedding to coworkers or while at work.

Post # 4
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

You absolutely you can invite the people you are close to. There are approx. 50 employees at my office but I only invited my closest friends from there. I sent them an email requesting their home addresses and sent a tiny reminder to not divulge in any wedding details to anyone or tell anyone they were going to the wedding. It just made it easier without causing drama.

Post # 5
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You can just invite the people you actually have a relationship with outside of work.  My office is about 40 people, and I work with all of them, but I don’t even *like* half of them.  I’m an all or nothing girl myself, and felt if I invited the few I wanted to, I would have to invite them all, so I invited 2 people who I actively socialize with outside of work and did the same – asked them to keep things hush hush – and everyone else who has asked I explain I’m keeping my guestlist small and that 90% of the people coming are family.


Post # 6
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My honest opinion about inviting coworkers is to only invite them if you would still be friends if one of you quit today. Usually, the answer to that question is no. But sometimes, it’s yes, and in that case, invite those people. Be sure to tell them ahead of time that others aren’t invited, and to keep it on the DL.

It’s not at all required to ever invite coworkers (bosses or not) to a wedding. I work in a small office (about 20 people) and I didn’t invite anyone, including my boss or CEO, who I work pretty closely with. And no one was expecting to be invited. I just honestly don’t think it’s worth it to invite them unless, like I said, you would remain friends if you left your job. 

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