Post # 1
I’m sure everyone has a cousin, sibling, or stepsibling who’s just plain ANNOYING.What do you do in this situation?
My partner’s got an almost 11-year-old cousin who neither of us can stand, but he’s a close enough relative that we couldn’t do the “oh we’re only inviting close family” thing and he’s almost old enough to not be avoided by having a “no kids” rule (plus the other kids in the family are great). I would hope that he’d be able to behave at a wedding, but based on his behavior during and after their grandmother’s funeral a few months ago, it doesn’t look promising.
Here are the options we’ve thought of so far (some serious, some not, some good, some… well, not):
- Just deal with it–he’s family
- “No kids” rule
- Have an immediate-family-only ceremony but invite enough family & friends to the reception/after party that the cousin gets lost in the crowd and we can avoid him
- Destination wedding
- Wedding on a school day
- Wedding in a strip club
- Wedding in a bar
- Wedding somewhere else, but reception/after party in a strip club or bar
- Lose the invitation
- Invite tigers to the wedding and let the situation sort itself out
All joking aside, is there a good way to deal with younger guests who really don’t add anything to a wedding? Anyone?
Post # 3
Not that we were trying to exclude anyone… but we just cannot afford to have ALL of his family attend. There are a MILLION cousins!! We have a cut-off at 21 years old. No one under 21 allowed to the reception, but they can still attend the ceremony. An older, 16 year old cousin will drive all the kids back to a house for a pizza party that night. This could work?
Post # 4
@mholden: bwahahaahaha – definately the tigers! Hysterical. But seriously, I think you gotta just deal with it. Maybe ask his parents to help. In what way is he annoying? That makes a difference in how to deal with it.
If he’s one of those kids who will want to talk to you guys all night maybe ask if his parents can talk to him about how you guys will be really busy so you can’t hang out with him all night. Then make a point to spend a few minutes with him early on so he feels like he got attention, but then have his parents try to keep him from bugging you the rest of the night. Or if the problem is that he’s wild have his parents talk to him about how this is a grown-up formal event and he can only stay if he is well behaved. And have a babysitter ready if he doesn’t behave.
Post # 5
@mholden: Wedding in a strip club ought to do it! “Sorry kiddo, but you’re not 18 yet! I don’t make the rules, now.”
One would think that at age 11, his parents should be keeping him under control But from your post, it sounds like they can’t be counted on to do that? Yeesh.
Also, I love that “tigers” is tagged in this post