What to do about friend who has paid too much for her wedding dress…

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Should i tell my friend about what i know...
    Yes, she has a right to know so she can make a decision about whether to proceed. : (32 votes)
    59 %
    No, she probably can't get her money back anyway and it might turn out for the best. : (22 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
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    1864 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @sharontobemarried:  I would absolutely tell her.

    How did this person know that the seamstress does this? Can it be proven?

    Post # 4
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    1590 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    When is her wedding? Could she afford it? I think Id stay out of it if she was willing to pay it.

    Post # 7
    Member
    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would stay well out of this one.  If you tell your friend what you heard, you could mess things up for your friend, your beautician, and most importantly, yourself.  Even though your beautitian said that this dressmaker has done this in the past, you don’t have any way to prove that she’s doing it in this specific instance with your friend’s dress.  If you rat her out, there may be nothing your friend can do to get her money back, and the dressmaker is going to want to know how you came about this information.  If she finds out that your stylist told you, there could be big problems between them, for which your beautician might blame you. 

     

    Post # 8
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    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @sharontobemarried:  wow, that is so sneaky and very dishonest.  i would want to know if i was the bride.

    does your friend expect this seamstress to make her dress on site?  if so, i would tell her to request to come by and see the progress every week.  how would the lady explain the dress in progress not even there?

    keep us posted what your friend does.

    Post # 9
    Member
    3756 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    That is some kind of scam she’s got going on!! I would tell your friend, but I’m not sure how she could proceed. You’d have to have proof that the lady actually ordered the dress online. Hmmm, what a predicament!! I’d be livid. 

    Post # 10
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    1272 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Can she still get her money back if she cancels the order? If so, then I would discuss it with her right away, but if she is locked in to the order, I would keep quiet. I would definitely have done a lot more research on the seamstress before spending that much, but if she can’t change it and get her money back, this would just make her feel awful.

    Post # 11
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    515 posts
    Busy bee

    @sharontobemarried:  This is awful and sooooo dishonest. I would tell her now…that way maybe she can confront the seamstress and hopefully get her money back. If I was your friend I would be absolutely crushed 🙁 It’s so sad that people think it is ok to take advantage of other people.

    Post # 12
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    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @sharontobemarried:  that is so tricky! Is the seamstress local to your area? Your friend should “pop in” and visit the progress of the dress. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    525 posts
    Busy bee

    Better Business Bureau report and see if the seamstress gives her back the money?

    Post # 14
    Member
    5518 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I wouldnt want to see my friend scammed.  I would approach this gently.  Its not about her spending $5500 for a dress.  It’s about this seamstress pocketing 4 grand from this.  You want to make sure this seamstress is legit.

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