(Closed) What to do about missing address’s?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m sorry to hear about the situation with your mom.  That must be hard at this time, but I would definitely mail out the ones you can.  You may never get those addresses despite your efforts.  I facebooked a cousin of mine to get theirs, but never heard back.  There’s a little family drama with their dad, so I took that as their no RSVP.  He’s a fb regular, but he never responded to my message.  We ended up inviting others in their place.

Post # 4
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Honey bee

Do what you can on your own to track down the addresses. If you can’t find them, then you can’t find them and there isn;t anything you can do. Unfortunately, those folks may not be able to attend if you are unable to track down where to send the invites.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yes, there’s no rule saying you have to mail them out at the same time, especially since these people won’t be talking to each other thinking “oh they got an invitation and we didn’t”. Also is your date still May 13? In that case you have A LOT of time to mail them out. The usual timeline for sending out invitations is 2-3 prior to the wedding.

Post # 6
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988 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

mail out now what you can and take things one day at a time.  it’s out of your control.

good luck hun

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would just mail those you can mail and wait on the others to give you their addresses. If they don’t get around to it and get their invite late, that’s going to be their fault.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

When I was getting ready to send out our STDs, I was trying to round up addresses. The way I handled it was to ask three times, and if they didn’t respond, I just gave up and crossed them off the list. We have since added a couple of potential guest that weren’t on the original list that we were able to get addresses for. Personally, I just use the “three strikes and you are out” rule. There is less stress that way.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@noritake22: I used the one strike and you are out rule. 🙂  But that was for someone I only kind of wanted there and FB was the only way to get ahold of her.  She didn’t respond and now I can say oh well.  And I’ll say that if she ever asks.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Is there anyone else in your mom’s family you can contact to get the addresses, like a grandma or an aunt? If not, just send out the ones you have; don’t let the missing addresses hold up your whole process. If the other addresses come in, send them out later, but if they never get back to you, there’s nothing you can really do!

Post # 11
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630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Me and FI didnt have all our addresses and we literally just looked them up on google. we found almost everyone. Or the yellow pages

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Is your wedding in May?

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