Post # 1
I have a friend, we used to be close but we haven’t seen each other in several years, but we still chat online and in FB. She’s always been bucking tradition just for the sake of bucking tradition and I accept that.
What really keeps getting me is that every week she posts news articles and editorials about the evils of marriage/weddings, how weddings are a waste of money, women who plan weddings are immature and mroe stories along those lines.
They bug me, but they all piss me off by now. I’m not going to defriend her or anything that drastic over this, but it keeps bugging me. I still don’t know exactly how to respond (I mean she can post whatever she wants).
Do any bees out there have friends that are major Debbie Downers and negative about weddings now that you’re planning yours? How do you deal with it?
Post # 3
@renwoman: No, and honestly if I did, i wouldn’t let it faze me. I’m not one who gives a crap what others think. If she’s not happy that you’re happy and planning your wedding, let her be miserable about it and keep on posting away. Hide her news feed and problem solved.
At then end of the day, why should you care or let it piss you off? Really, who cares what she thinks?
Post # 4
@renwoman: She is obviously working through some issues. The only thing you can do is send her love (from a distance).
Post # 5
@renwoman: I hide status updates of people like that.
Post # 6
I would just hide her from my newsfeed/”unfollow” her. I do that without unfriending people when I don’t want to unfriend them but their posts often make me feel bad.
Post # 7
@renwoman: You have the option on fb to “unfollow.” Doesn’t mean you defriend, just means their posts don’t show up in your feed.
As far as her postings, could it be that she is jealous of ohter people’s happiness? Is it possible her feed is flooded with all these happy couples getting married and she is having a hard time dealing?
Post # 10
@renwoman: As a general rule, I have no room in my life for negativity. I would defriend her in a heartbeat if she wasn’t adding anything positive to my life.
That being said, if you don’t want to take that step, I’d suggest hiding her posts from your newsfeed. She won’t know you did it, and then you don’t have to see her Debbie Downer posts. It’s a win-win!
Post # 11
I’m with others who say they would defriend somebody in a heartbeat if this is how they handle their emotional issues. This is obviously someone who’s feeling hurt or negative about marriage and weddings – I’m guessing she doesn’t have either ahead of her in the immediate future. The difference is that this woman resorts to passive-aggressive displays to convince others – and possibly herself – that she doesn’t care about those things. In fact, she’s so trendy that she hates them.
The way I see it – as an atheist – it would be a bit like me devoting all of my energy into talking about how this religion is stupid, that follower is stupid for believing in said religion, etc. I simply don’t care. I’m indifferent. I do what works for me, and I have my feelings about other religions, but I don’t feel the need to constantly drill it into others’ heads. Sure, I have my views about what’s better to believe or not believe in – but I’m so comfortable with my worldview and my choices that I don’t feel the need to constantly attack others with it. I don’t feel the need to convince them of anything.
I feel sorry for this woman. But until she learns to handle those feelings in a mature and productive way, she’s going to find herself very lonely very quickly.
Post # 12
I suggest definitely hiding her posts from your feed. I did the same thing for my dad (whom I actually mentioned in a thread I started yesterday). All he ever posts all day long on his facebook is paranoid conspiracy theory “truther” stuff and videos related to UFOs and aliens. And then, whenever someone comments a difference of opinion on his posts, he goes off on them.
I didn’t want to have to read that every day and his posts had become incredibly annoying, so I unsubscribed and voila…I’m no longer subjected to his drama.
Post # 13
Since this is a Facebook problem, you can block her newsfeed posts.
Post # 14
Yup, definitely on board with hiding her posts. If we were close enough friends I’d probably say something along the lines of “Oh, good to know what you think of me. I’m going to go back to planning my wedding now…” but that’s just because I can be a confrontational biotch. Meh.
Post # 15
@renwoman: No need to respond. Why wouldn’t you just block this person from your newsfeed?