What to do about negative friend?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1864 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@renwoman:  No, and honestly if I did, i wouldn’t let it faze me. I’m not one who gives a crap what others think. If she’s not happy that you’re happy and planning your wedding, let her be miserable about it and keep on posting away. Hide her news feed and problem solved. 

At then end of the day, why should you care or let it piss you off? Really, who cares what she thinks?

Post # 4
5812 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@renwoman:  She is obviously working through some issues. The only thing you can do is send her love (from a distance).

Post # 5
7025 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@renwoman:  I hide status updates of people like that.

Post # 6
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I would just hide her from my newsfeed/”unfollow” her. I do that without unfriending people when I don’t want to unfriend them but their posts often make me feel bad.

Post # 7
1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

@renwoman:  You have the option on fb to “unfollow.” Doesn’t mean you defriend, just means their posts don’t show up in your feed.

As far as her postings, could it be that she is jealous of ohter people’s happiness? Is it possible her feed is flooded with all these happy couples getting married and she is having a hard time dealing?

Post # 10
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@renwoman:  As a general rule, I have no room in my life for negativity. I would defriend her in a heartbeat if she wasn’t adding anything positive to my life. 


That being said, if you don’t want to take that step, I’d suggest hiding her posts from your newsfeed. She won’t know you did it, and then you don’t have to see her Debbie Downer posts. It’s a win-win!

Post # 11
1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I’m with others who say they would defriend somebody in a heartbeat if this is how they handle their emotional issues. This is obviously someone who’s feeling hurt or negative about marriage and weddings – I’m guessing she doesn’t have either ahead of her in the immediate future. The difference is that this woman resorts to passive-aggressive displays to convince others – and possibly herself – that she doesn’t care about those things. In fact, she’s so trendy that she hates them.

The way I see it – as an atheist – it would be a bit like me devoting all of my energy into talking about how this religion is stupid, that follower is stupid for believing in said religion, etc. I simply don’t care. I’m indifferent. I do what works for me, and I have my feelings about other religions, but I don’t feel the need to constantly drill it into others’ heads. Sure, I have my views about what’s better to believe or not believe in – but I’m so comfortable with my worldview and my choices that I don’t feel the need to constantly attack others with it. I don’t feel the need to convince them of anything.

I feel sorry for this woman. But until she learns to handle those feelings in a mature and productive way, she’s going to find herself very lonely very quickly.

Post # 12
320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I suggest definitely hiding her posts from your feed. I did the same thing for my dad (whom I actually mentioned in a thread I started yesterday). All he ever posts all day long on his facebook is paranoid conspiracy theory “truther” stuff and videos related to UFOs and aliens. And then, whenever someone comments a difference of opinion on his posts, he goes off on them.

I didn’t want to have to read that every day and his posts had become incredibly annoying, so I unsubscribed and voila…I’m no longer subjected to his drama. 

Post # 13
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Since this is a Facebook problem, you can block her newsfeed posts.

Problem: solved.

Post # 14
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Yup, definitely on board with hiding her posts. If we were close enough friends I’d probably say something along the lines of “Oh, good to know what you think of me. I’m going to go back to planning my wedding now…” but that’s just because I can be a confrontational biotch. Meh.

Post # 15
830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@renwoman:  No need to respond. Why wouldn’t you just block this person from your newsfeed?

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