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I need advice bees. I had 1 maid of honor (my sister) and 5 bridesmaids. I emailed, texted, and occasionally called all bridesmaids with the same information. I informed them 6 months ahead of time what dress to order and by when.

My bridesmaid who lives in North Carolina was my best friend but we've been drifting apart. She didnt return any of my texts, emails, fb messages or calls about the wedding. I went ahead and counted her out of my party. I told my florist I needed only 4 bouquets (another bridesmaid had to be omitted).

Just yesterday my bridesmaid texts and calls me asking what color dress she's supposed to wear. She ordered both dresses and never bothered to tell me. I'm pissed off. It's 3 weeks before my wedding and I've already counted her out. What do I do bees?

If you never had a conversation about her about not being a part of your wedding party, there isn't much you can do other than making sure the florist has a bouquet for her, too. I understand you're mad that she never contacted you, but you can't be mad that she's still planning to stand up in your wedding. Honestly, if I were in your shoes, I would be pleasantly surprised that she's still planning on it and even bought two dresses for the wedding (if I understood that part right). Maybe you should just answer her about the dress but mention that you'll need her to keep in contact with you better being that the wedding is so close and leave it at that.

Well I was never able to get in touch with her. She never returned my calls or messages. I even asked her if she still wanted to be a bridesmaid and she never answered me. I just find that extremely rude and now 3 weeks before I have to go out of my way and pay more money to get her a bouquet.

Hm...are you sure your messages GOT to her? Maybe ask her why she never returned any of them and see what she says. I agree that if you never told her that she's out, you kind have to suck it up, especially if you still want her in your wedding.

That's the thing...I don't want her in the wedding anymore. We haven't spoken in months. I did ask her why she never contacted me or returned my messages and she ignored the question.

hm...well then I think you should probably tell her that and why you feel that way. If you don't want her in the wedding, you don't want her in the wedding. It really sucks she bought those dresses though..hopefully she can return them? Though it is her fault for non-communication for months. I think no matter what you do, somebody is going to be unhappy....better her than you on your wedding day.