Post # 1
So hears the deal…I have two sisters, a sister-in-law, a future sister-in-law, and five really great friends that I want in my wedding party. Unfortunately, I don’t want a wedding party the size of Texas. So my fiance said not to have his brother’s wife (future SIL) in the wedding because they are from out of town and his brother is in the wedding and they will need someone to keep and eye on the kids…yada yada. So that eliminates one. At this point, I have already asked my two sisters and my brother’s wife (who I am very close to), and two of my closest friends. The other three friends I have asked to be my mistresses of ceremonies to help with all the details and be as involved as possible.
Sometimes, I think I am okay with this but then sometimes I really just want all of my friends to stand up with me. I don’t know if having a party of eight is appropriate or if I should stick with five. My fiance really doesn’t want a party that large.
Post # 3
Have who you want. The size won’t matter, the sentiment will. As long as you have more people sitting down, then standing up, I think you will be fine.
Post # 4
I had 6 and it was big. Big enough. 8, depending on where you are and how big your wedding is, gets to be a little tough to cram into certain areas of the churches and whatnot.
Plus your friends will realize they were an "add on" which I don’t know how I’d feel about that.
Post # 5
just leave it be – especially because Fi wants you to!
The 3 will feel great helping with other tasks. You can have them be greeters or guest book or other things on the day. They know you are closer to the other gals – and it’s really OK!
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
If your other three friends didn’t feel upset by being semi-bridesmaids and your FI really doesn’t want a large party, then I’d leave it as is.
Post # 7
If you are that close to them I would put them in the wedding! Your bridal party isn’t complete without your closest friends who has been there for you standing up with you! I have a big family and close friends…I have a party of 9. I talked to my photographer about it and I googled different bridal party pics and ppl do it all the time! They do even more than that! Hey it’s your wedding!!
Post # 8
i hear you nic!
i have no sisters– i asked my three cousins who i’m close to. then there are my two FSILs, so that’s 5… plus my best friend from age 3, so there’s 6. i’m trying to decide if i want to ask more as well. i think 6 is enough but i don’t want to miss having my other closest friends be part of the celebration. i think the wedding parties can be the most difficult part of this whole thing!
everyone’s advice to me has been to do whatever you want– if there’s one time in your life to be self-indulgent, it’s now. good luck! 🙂
Post # 9
I didn’t want a big wedding party, but yet, I am having eight girls. I just couldn’t NOT have them. Despite this, I don’t have my future SIL’s in the wedding party, and I hope they don’t feel bad about that. I think they understand, though, and we aren’t super close yet either. I just figured that if I look back at it, I will be happy with who I have asked to be in the wedding.