Post # 1
I just received an RSVP where the couple added their kids. I thought we would have avoided this situation. I addressed the envelope to just them, the inside envelope had just the husband and wives name on it, the reception card said it was an adult only reception, the rsvp card said we had reserved 2 seats in their honor…
But they still put their kids names on the RSVP.
I dont feel like we could have made it any more clear.
Do we call them and tell them to leave their kids at home? or just let it go?
Post # 3
I can’t believe people have the gall to do this! You are not the first person on the Bee to say this has happened.
Call them and tell them that you are so sorry that they misunderstood, but this party is for adults only. Tell them you ‘d love to spend time with them and kiddos after the wedding (if that is the case), but that you are not having children at your wedding.
Be prepared that they will be as rude to you on the phone as they were via the invite.
Stick to your guns. It is YOUR wedding, not theirs.
Boy, people really have some nerve sometimes. Just beyond rude.
Post # 4
Yes, you have to call them. If you bend the rules for even one, everyone will expect it.
Post # 5
When this happened with us, we said we would love to see the children at the ceremony; but that, unfortunately, the reception would be for adults only.
Post # 6
Oh wow – I thought I was going to be safe with listing names and “___ of two will be attending”
Apparently not. This is absolutely ridiculous!
Post # 7
I agree with the PP’s. You definitely have to call them. There’s no way they missed that the kids weren’t invited and they’re probably hoping you won’t call them on it.
Post # 8
Sorry to say you have to make that uncomfortable phone call.
Every. Single. Time. I see one of these posts it makes me want to scream that people can be either so dense or so rude.
Post # 9
Call them and tell them no. freakin. way.
Also, I’ve been looking for an excuse to post this link….too funny:
Post # 10
Funny link. Sorry Goose about that. Crazy!
Post # 11
I have a follow up question about this. I have a feeling that I will have this problem too.
When you ladies call these people to tell them their darling children are not invited, what is the response you receive?
Post # 12
Just out of curiousity how old are their kids?
Post # 13
Their kids are 8 and 4. So many families with children have “played by the rules” that I know it wouldnt be fair to let them bring theirs, but I dont have a clue how to begin this awkward phone conversation.
So bees, What do I say? and to those that have made this phone call, do the people usually end up not coming?
Post # 14
HAHAHA THAT IS A FUNNY LINK! Definitely call them. I dont think there is much more you can do. Tell them if its local you can try to help make arrangements for a sitter or something.. I honestly dont know how to sugar coat it.
That was just so rude. I am so glad I didnt have that happen, but you never know.. someone may just show up with a child.. people are just so ridiculous at times.
Post # 15
@goosegg: I haven’t had to deal with this yet, but is it an option to have your mom or dad possibly deal with it? Or your in-laws? I have a possible person with which this might be a problem and if it happens, my gram is handling it! ;o)
Post # 16
omg that liink is hilarious. and horrible. and… yea.
Definitely call them. say something like “we have so many people that we’d love to celebrate with but unfortunately due to budget and space restrictions we had to make an across-the-board rule that the reception is adults only. I’d really hate to offend anyone by making exceptions. I really hope that you can still make it!”