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What to do? Boss added kids to RSVP!

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    lindyjo    June 25, 2011  

    So my boss and his wife both work for my company so I invited both to our wedding. On their invite I used only their names. When we got their RSVP back, they had added their three daughters who I've never met and are all under 13! We're very close to our limit and I think it would be very awkward to tell them that they can't bring in their kids. Do I let this go or do I suck it up and ask them to find a babysitter?

     
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    mightywombat    June 25, 2011   Massachusetts

    I think unless your job situation is very precarious, you should sweetly explain in an email that you're so sorry, but you can't accomodate children at your wedding.

     
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    2ndtime    April 16, 2011  

    Are you allowing other children to attend?  If not, simply say there will not be any children at the reception.  And even if you are having other children, simply say that the venue has a maximum capacity and you apologize for not being more clear (even though you were!) but you can't take on any additional guests.  

     
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    To quote you "suck it up and ask them to find a babysitter".

     
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    MrsGolden2Bee    June 16, 2015   Canada

    If you can't accommodate their kids then let them know that the kids can't come. It's your wedding so put your foot down. it doesn't matter if it's your boss, be polite and simply tell them no.

     
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    LMD84    September 29, 2012   Long Island

    I don't understand why people think this is ok! I can't believe how often I see this problem.

     
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    ilovenycmissie    September 2009   nyc

    just say no, time to put that bridal foot down

     
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    jeffloveschrissy    May 15, 2011   New Jersey

    @LMD84: I was going to say the same thing as LMD84. Its your wedding, it should be what you want so you have to put your foot down and let them know. 

     
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    camrie    September 5, 2010   Louisville

    I'd just tell them the truth unless you think it would be a huge deal. They may be your boss - but that's still rude.

     
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    napabridekelsey    August 13, 2011   Live in Corvallis, OR/Wedding in Napa, CA

    Yeah...I think in this case, you should just tell them that you're at your limit and you only have space for your boss and their husband/wife. They should understand! It's very possible they were confused!

     

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