- 3 years ago
DH and I just got married and were starting to think of what to do on Christmas this year. I’d love to hear what everyone else does as well. When you have kids, does that change things?
Last year we had decided to split up the holidays by doing Thanksgiving with his family, Christmas with both families and Easter with my family. Our families are about 5 hours apart and each is at least 5 hours from where we live, so it is hard to do both but we managed by first doing my families Christmas Eve dinner and then Church. We then got up super early on Christmas Day and spent the greater part of the day on the train to get to his families Christmas celebration that night. Afterward we both went back to his parents house for a few days before heading home.
This year I will have only 2-4 days off of work. At most, it would be the day before Christmas Eve till the day after Christmas, however most likely, it will just be Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. It’d be impossible to get to both places and be ready for work the next morning.
My new thought was to do our immediate family traditions this year and just focus on seeing our parents and siblings instead of our entire extended family. We would go to his parents for their quiet dinner and gift tradition on Christmas Eve, then take a train to see my parents Christmas Morning and spend the afternoon with them and head home to our city late Christmas night. Does this seem reasonable? I feel like we’re cutting a whole lot of people out, but at the same time we’ve had a lot of family weddings the past few months (including ours) so we’ve definitely seen quite a bit of the extended family this year.
The primary reason that we are not just picking a family is that if we did we would have to pick DHs. Last year when I suggested alternating years he said that that would be fine every other year but that when I went home to be with my family, he would probably go see his and we would do Christmas separate. I understand his reasoning as he only ever sees his family on major holidays but at the same time it’d break my heart to be separate on Christmas, so we do the crazy marathons.
- This topic was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by missadventure85.