Post # 1
My SO requested 2 weeks off work for the holidays to spend with my family for family christmas parties/reunions new years etc and we are going to do the things we normally do, after christmas shopping (deals!) and such
I’m applying to grad school this year and he has paid for everything!
During undergrad when we were both poor small presents and sentimental items, as well as poems were written but now its going to be different since he has a good paying job and we are travelling for the holidays
I can’t really cook him anything special since we will be roadtripping and vacationing and he is paying for everything.
I know he’s into computers/electronics, he’s a software engineer and gets to play with all sorts of toys from his work already so thats out of the question and why would I know the specific specs for his dream computer he would just build it himself, plus I have no $$$.
He loves burgers, milkshakes, video games (league of legends), and anything chai/spice.
Please help me come up with ideas that I can do/make (DIY) or anything that I can get him for christmas ahead of time!
Last christmas he proposed gave me a diamond ring
This christmas hes giving me so-cal/las vegas vacation for 2 weeks.
I’m starting to feel really bad…..
Post # 3
I bake things for my DH. Apple pies, pumpkin pies, cheesecakes…
And it costs a little money, but you can’t forget his two best friends–Ben&Jerry!
My DH is a glutton, and I love it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@elliptical2013: So are you going to remain broke after you get married? Or does he plan on giving you an allowance at some point? Now is a good time to discuss money before getting married.
If you’re looking for an idea only: suggest to him that you take a trip together somewhere as your Christmas present to each other. That way he doesn’t have to give you gifts that you feel bad about because you can’t reciprocate.
Post # 5
@beachbride1216: Im an authorized user for all his CC’s and he gives me money in my bank account but…I’m just buying him things with HIS money…so I don’t really use any of his $$ other than to feed myself or for interview clothes etc when something comes up.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@elliptical2013: Even if it’s his salary it’s both of your money and if you use it to buy something he wouldn’t buy for himself, then it’s definitely a gift.
I am in the opposite situation where my FI makes less than I do. I have told him not to buy me gifts because I would prefer for us to make memories by taking trips or doing activities together. However, he wrote a short story and dedicated it to me for Christmas last year. I was pretty surprised and delighted.
Post # 7
why do you need to give each other anything? DH and i dont do b-day or christmas presents because reality is, if i want something badly, i’ll save and buy it myself.
The only thing i truly value from my DH is spending time with him.
Alternatively, buy some lingerie and repay him in that way
Trust me, he will like that better than video games
Post # 9
One time in college I crocheted a red-and-white bikini and wore that + a Santa hat for adult time with a boyfriend for a Christmas gift. He seemed pleased, lol.
Post # 10
@elliptical2013: What about making a photobook for this year’s photos? You can import Facebook pictures or any digital pictures to CVS and order prints for about $0.17 each. You can have them made into a photobook for under $20, and you can write little captions too. I’m thinking of doing that for DH and maybe making one each year.
Post # 11
@MrsLongcoatPeacoat: I can get the prints, where do you mean photobook made?
Like a handmade scrap book? Or like on shutterfly?
Post # 12
@MrsLongcoatPeacoat: no man wants a photo album. honestly. girls think they are cute but guys will look at it once and it will be forgotten.
Post # 13
@elliptical2013: In addition to the things other ladies have suggested, Maybe you could make him this chai mix to have a special drink on the trip. I know my guy likes certain creamers for his coffee and when we’re traveling he misses that sort of thing.
Post # 14
Don’t see the SoCal/Vegas vacation as a gift to you – but a gift to each other. 🙂
For the past several Christmas’ our gift to each other has been a trip, since we enjoy event/memory type gifts vs. actual gifts.
However, before we were married (just BF/GF) my husband did take me to Cancun for our anniversary. Because this was an obvious gift from him to me, I did plan little extra things that were small surprises for him.
So if you feel that you want to contribute a little bit more, what about planning specicial events/things you can do while on your Vegas vacation? Like maybe a scavanger hunt for landmarks in Vegas, and make it a fun competition with a prize. Or after dinner, have a surprise bottle of champagne in your hotel room. Little things like that.
Post # 15
@elliptical2013: Similar to the idea of a photobook, take a posed picture of the two of you that you can repeat each year. It can be the start of a tradition.
Think of a place that will not change so the background is the same. Then you go there every year and take your pic-(set camera up on tripod with timer or get someone else to take your pic).
It is great to see the pics change over time, with age, children etc.
These ones just use a plain background, but you could use a building, park etc.
Post # 16
@elliptical2013: You can format and design the photobook through CVS.com It’s really easy.
@Swizzle: LOL–understandable. In our case though, both DH and I love photography and take tons of pictures. He usually does black and white abstract stuff and I’m running around taking candids of people. He loves the picturebooks because we both have horrible memories and he never prints his shots.