Post # 1
Okay so my problem is that I really hate my brother’s stupid gf cause she’s such a b*tch!! At the beginning I really tried to get along with her (tho I just don’t like her) but after my bro n her broke up she started behaving so bad with him, like she even snapped her fingers so that my brother get off her car in front of my dad and me, my brother asked her: “do you missed me?” by phone and she said :”not at all”, she’s 29 and my brother 20.. So he is so dumb he got back with her, now he wants to bring her home and I don’t see why do I have to tolerate her?!
I don’t even want her in my wedding, but I don’t want to hurt my brother.. What to do? Just suck it up? :/
Post # 3
You don’t have to have her be a bridesmaid. You should invite her if she is still dating your brother when invitations go out.
Post # 4
It can be so hard to see someone we care about be so darn stupid in the love department. Obviously you see that she’s a bitch and treats him horribly but even if you bring it to his attention then you’re the “bad guy”. As hard as it might be try to be the bigger person, better than her and not stoop to her playing level and be so sweet to her it’s sickening. Try that and see how that plays out.
As far as your wedding goes, you have 5 months … maybe by then your brother might have wised up and kicked her to the curb and has a beautiful charming girlfriend that treats him like a king!!!!
Post # 5
@Ill Be Mrs B: Gosh I really WISH with ALL MY HEART that happens, he finding another gf who truly disserves him.. I feel horrible just to see him suffer or tolerate whatever she does.. She’s so immature and she’s almost 30, why doesn’t she goes behind a guy of her own age?!
And her being a bridesmaid, doesn’t even stand a chance. Not today, tomorrow nor NEVER.
And the being so painfully sweet, it’s the hardest thing to me right now, just to hear her voice makes me mad, so it’s even harder for me since I’m a very expressive person… :/
Post # 6
@Mrs_powerz: I know you care about your brother but that is his issues and his relationship. I suggest, staying out of it.
Post # 7
@Mrs_powerz: She absolutely does NOT have to be in your wedding. That would be a ridiculous request, if your brother actually asked.
As far as tolerating her… that’s really all you can do. TOLERATE. Your brother is an adult and he can handle her how he sees fit. If she treats him poorly, it’s his responsibility to talk to her about it. Not yours. I know it’s hard to see people you love get hurt or disrespected. But unfortunately there’s not much you can do.
Post # 8
@Mrs_powerz: And the being so painfully sweet, it’s the hardest thing to me right now
And you don’t have to be “painfully sweet”… you don’t have to kill her with kindness. Just be civil, say hello, then excuse yourself. You don’t have to engage with someone you don’t like just because she’s dating your brother. You need exit strategies!! If you are speaking with her and she’s starting to piss you off, wait for a break and say “Oh, excuse me, I have to do…..”
Post # 9
The good news is, most of the time people don’t marry the person they’re dating at 20, so you can probably wait for her or your brother to get sick of the other person and they’ll break up.
Post # 10
@Mrs_powerz: We did not include any boyfriends or girlfriends of our siblings in our wedding. In fact, my brother-in-law wasn’t in the wedding, simply because we wanted to keep our bridal party small.
Do what you want. They’re only dating. There is no “rule” or expectation that she is included.
Post # 11
Unless she is harming your brother in any way I think you just got to suck it up. I feel like hit would be inappropriate for you not to invite her if your brother wants her there.
Post # 12
I’m confused… I get that it’s frustrating to not like your brother’s girlfriend but are they asking you to put her in the wedding? Are they asking you to do anything but tolerate the sound of her voice when you have to be in her presence at family functions? That’s life…
Post # 13
I hate, hate, hate my brothers longterm Girlfriend. She is a vile, obnoxious, loudmouthed C U Next Tuesday. You do what you have to do…. You just put up with it.
Post # 14
My boyfriend’s sister really hates me a lot, for no reason that anybody knows of. She did not invite me to her wedding, and has made it clear that I am not allowed at her house for family dinners etc.
I guess if it really bothers you that much, don’t have her in the wedding. I’d talk to your brother about it if I were you, and let him know you don’t mean to hurt him. In my case, my bf’s sister didn’t talk to him and it caused hard feelings on his end.
Post # 15
Ahhh this almost happened to me! My brother’s girlfriend was HORRIBLE, and although I wasn’t planning on including her in the ceremony or anything, I was pretty unhappy that she’d even be around. It’s hard to deal with negative people around such a happy occasion, but try to focus on the people that you do want there!
Anyway, miraculously they broke up… hope it works out for you, too!!