(Closed) What to do if we just dont have the money to have a wedding???

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Can you have a backyard wedding with close family and friends only?  Skip the food reception and do cake/punch only?  If you already have your dress, and you still have well over a year until the wedding – can you save tax returns?  FI get a PT job?

Basically you either need to scale back the wedding or increase the revenue — or both.  I have seen some beautiful, small DIY weddings – sometimes I think those end up being more intimate and all-around beautiful.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

How about getting married on paper, save up, and have a big party on your 5th or 10th anniversary?

Otherwise, if I were in your shoes, I’d do the city hall/courthouse thing with just me, him, and our parents as witnesses. Then have a small reception at a decent restaurant with a private room for about 30 of our closest family/friends. Preferably on a weekday.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

You can get eloped with your parents /siblings there! 🙂 The chapels Ive seen before come with packages that cover everything including flowers/cake & pictures! Go for it, where your dress have your dad walk you down the isle. You can stilll have all that and elope for a good price. 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Lots of brides and grooms are doing it on their own; you don’t have to make it an “us” v. “them” post.

Have a backyard wedding or a small church wedding. You can still walk down the aisle on your father’s arm and kiss your groom, and it can still be a beautiful day. You just need to adjust your expectations for it.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d say backyard/park wedding with close family only.  

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Well you can’t have it all you just can’t. I’m sorry but that’s life.

You either need to drastically cut the guest list. Like very drastic to have the typical wedding. OR do what others have suggested in the backyard putluck informal type of wedding.

Post # 9
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2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

are you willing to wait a while to save money? Maybe wait until you get a nursing job so you can save?

Post # 10
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381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Have you heard of this blog? http://2000dollarwedding.com/ They had a full guest list and offered food AND booze (DIY mexican and margaritas!). You can still walk down the aisle, kiss the groom, have a first dance, etc. It might not look exactly the way you imagined, but if the important thing is having traditional wedding elements and being surround by the people you love, you just have to think outside of the box. Check out their budget break down and recaps for suggestions.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from. I got engaged in Feb of this year and am hoping more than anything that we can save enough for some sort of wedding by Oct. 2013 because after beign together 8 years, I can’t wait any longer!! It’s just nto fair how expensive things are an dhow much evndors rip you off for it being a wedding 🙁 I wish I had advice for you but I’m in the same boat and need advise myself. Just commenting so you know you are not the only one. Best of luck.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If we hadn;t had the money for a bigger wedding, we would have had an amazing, intimate, private small ceremony with just immediate family and our 2 best friends, and gone out to a lovely dinner. It’s my “other” dream wedding, actually :-).

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