- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009
I’m about 3 months out from the wedding, I moved to the Bay Area in CA two months ago after I finished taking the California State Bar exam. Currently, I’m job hunting. Needless to say, I’ve been going through a lot of life changes.
Since then, I’ve moved in with my FI, got admitted to the CA bar, and we’re thinking about buying a condo.
The thing is, I’m not as excited about getting married as I used to be. We’ve been engaged for more than a year and a half and I think now the stress of going through life changes is getting to me. I know I’ve changed in the four years my FI and I have been together, but I’m starting to doubt whether or not we should get married.
I talked to the FI about this briefly. He says that I have some hard thinking to do, but that perhaps it’s just the relationship is not that new and I’m expecting a little too much out of the relationship. I guess my personality is to try to make things better or improve things all the time, but I can’t tell whether I’m expecting too much or if I’m now just settling.
How do I know whether my unhappiness is because I’m going through these changes. I think what bugs me the most is that I don’t have a full time job and I don’t know very many people here. Plus, we live in a surburban part of the bay area whereas I’m used to living in big cities like LA and San Diego.
Help?? What should I do? How do I figure out whether or not I should get married??