- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
A couple of years ago my dad’s cousin’s son got married. The whole extended family was invited except for my brother, myself and 2 other cousins. It was not due to our age. My mother couldn’t accompany my father but asked if I could join instead. The cousin had determined that I couldn’t be there because I wasn’t high enough on the family tree which to be honest was a little hurtful. Although I now understand that they have every right to pick and choose who they want but as a young girl it’s hard to see all your other cousins go. He offered to order me a meal which I could take in the hotel separate from the wedding and then join them after for dancing but at that point I didn’t want the drama and said no thanks.
We haven’t seen each other in those years (probably see each other once every 3-4 years, less now since I’m away), and my cousin and his siblings are all married with kids. Mom wants me to invite all of them with their kids because they’re “family”. Fiance and I are planning a small wedding next May with family and close friends but since I wasn’t high enough on their family tree I’m sure they’ll understand if I don’t invite them. As a compromise, I agreed to invite his parents just as he did mine.
Mom is now telling me I’m being too “money minded” and that I should just invite them and their children and that they won’t come. You should know that I am South Asian so this is a culture thing. Am I wrong? Should I suck it up and invite them or should I stick to my guns?