- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Back in 2004-2006 I dated a great guy named Mark. Mark and I got along great and were fairly serious, but realized at the end that even though we cared about each other/respected each other it was definitely not enough for a long term relationship. During that time I was good friends witih Mark’s sister Julie. After the breakup we all didnt talk for about 6 months. We all reconnected-Mark and I are on good terms, friendly, but not friends. Julie and I became friends again and whenever I was visiting our home town I would see her and her husband, and eventually her, her husband, and new baby. I fully intended to invite them to my wedding to FI, we had all hung out and it wasn’t weird, a lot of time had passed. This was two years ago, during this time we postponed the wedding, her and family moved away a few states, and the baby began to grow and we lost touch. She always send updates/baby pictures, and invites to baby’s birthdays. I am unable to make his birthday this year due to my bachelorette party. I rsvp’d and told her so and that I was sad to miss it. She then made a remark about the wedding (its getting close) and asked if I was still having it in X.
Here is the problem Bee’s: Between the postpoining and downsizing and losing touch I wasn’t planning on inviting them. Now I feel like I should/need to. She knows they were on the invite list the first time around, but is the kind of person that would understand why she wasn’t invited this time. What do I do? Invite her, or kindly let her know that we wish we could share the day with everyone but due to constraints ahd to cut our wedding way down? Also, it’s a destination wedding and I doubt they would be able to make it anyway.