Post # 1
When my daughter was born we still lived with my parents and she still goes VERY often to visit stay the night ect… She has gotten really close with my parents dog Coda (was a birthday present for me but couldnt take it with us when we moved out) I am so sad but have been trying to keep myself together because my little girl is heart broken. She is almost 5 and understands what death is so when she overheard me talking to my mom she burst into tears and has just been so sad she cried herself to sleep tonight.
What can I do to help her get through this? Is there anything I can do? Someone suggested doing some sort of project to help her remember Coda.
Thank you all in advance for your help
Post # 3
I experienced a lot of dead pets when I was young. My mum would take me to a garden centre to pick out a plant I liked and we would plant it over where we buried our pet with our favourite photo of them and say something nice about them so that I could always remember them and think of the good and happy times we had. Emphasise that Coda had a lovely happy life and she helped make it that way and he was very thankful for that. I hope that helps! I know what a horrible time it can be.
Post # 4
@Snowden: Thank you that sounds like a really good idea!
Post # 5
How sad that you guys didn’t really get to say goodbye!
I like @Snowden‘s idea of a plant to memorialize her. They also make memory stones that you put outside that you can have personalized with your dog’s name, if you so choose. This is one example: Pet Breed Memorial Stone.
Also, something really easy to do that a family friend did when their dog died was to buy a shadow-box type photo frame, put a nice photo of the dog in it, and then wrap the dog’s collar around outside of the box. I wish I’d seen it before we lost our last dog, but I didn’t know them at the time.
Post # 6
Those are such good ideas. I think the key ingredient of all of these lovely ideas is closure. Let your daughter have her time to say goodbye and memorialize what she lost, with the positive spin that the plant, memory stones or shadow box can give her. A craft or something symbolic, like the other PP’s have suggested, is the most appropriate method for a for a five year old, in my opinion.
Post # 7
@Miss Apricot: I really like the shadow box idea Thank you for that idea!
@star_dust: Yes I know finding something that I thought would be appropriate was the hard part. She is a very emotional little girl and is blaming herself right now for getting a kitty because Coda must have not thought she loved her anymore. I am working out timing with my mom but I am pretty sure will will do the plant and maybe even the shadow box too.